So you don't necessarily need to be over 40, but this is a thread to talk about shit you have to deal with when you're a little bit older. Kid crap, throwing your back out, the inability to fly all over the country for every MMJ show, etc. Grown up Kumbaya. Complaints and happy thoughts welcome equally!
I ain't complainin' but i can fall asleep in 3 minutes no matter where I am or what time it is.
I'm fitter at 44 than I was at 34; tougher too. Age is just a number, but many get old in their late 20s, which is pathetic.
Ok, so I am 42, and I enjoyed turning 40, it's the numbers after that which haven't been as exciting! I do feel like there is a certain shift that happens, and a maturity, that has been really great for my mental state. I just worry a lot less about things that used to keep me up at night - perhaps because of that 3 minute thing that Tracy mentioned.
The one thing that is really annoying me is the fitness stuff. I have always been pretty fit. I won't go as far as to say that I have been "athletic" but I have worked out consistently since my early 20s. I think I hit a fitness high in my mid-late 30's, and I definitely enjoyed the results of that. In the past year or two, and I have complained about this here before, I haven't had the same amount of stamina, nor have I seen the results. I have found it very difficult not only to drop a few lbs, but also to stay motivated. I still work out about 3 times a week, but with much less gusto. For some reason, I haven't been able to get my "mojo" back. Do I need some sort of challenge? Perhaps. I have tried that, but I am still struggling....so that's my only complaint.
Other than that, life is great! Being a working Mom has definitely been a challenge, especially living in a town where (oddly) most of the women stay home. As my daughter gets older (4th grade now) more and more women seem to be going back to work. When she was in preschool and the younger grades, it was tough. The guilt trips I would get for not being able to be at all of the PTA and school activities, oy! Now though, I am glad for having gone through it, and I think my daughter has a good appreciation of what I do, and the reasons why women choose to have careers and also have children. I think when she was younger it was sort of confusing for her, simply because 90% of her peers had their Moms at home.
Ok, so how does this band fit in with my life at 42? It has been great that my husband and I have been able to share our love of MMJ. We have both always been avid music fans, with slightly different tastes, but this is something that we get to do together. There are definitely times when it makes it a little more difficult to get to shows because it's both of us, so having to set up child care and all that jazz, but it is always worth it. The band ALWAYS delivers in such a huge way, that despite all of our cobbling-together of childcare, we always feel so glad and fortunate that we could make it. The T5 week was a great example of that, and even though we were totally wiped out by the end of the week, it will always be a highlight of our lives. This time for Port Chester, we are sort of waiting to see what happens that week. We are both doing the 29th, and are considering making solo trips up on the 27/28. Still letting that simmer, and will make a game time decision. For NYE, the 3 of us will be heading up to Boston, so that should be pretty awesome. This will be Chrissy's 2nd show, and she has always said we owe her a New Year's show (she sent a get well letter to Jim in 2008, and he sent us two tix to MSG NYE, and she always thought she got cheated because we didn't take her).
Another way that the band has impacted our lives, and perhaps an even bigger way, is the people we have met. It has been such a wonderful experience getting to meet so many kindred spirits, and we have really developed relationships that will last for many years to come. That has been such a great bonus, and has just added another dimension to our lives. It also makes it more difficult sometimes, when we can't do all the shows that we want to do, but our friends from here do an excellent job at keeping us in the loop!
Wait, am I rambling? I feel like I am in a therapy session...to whom should I mail a check?
Thanks for starting this thread! Ok, now I guess I should do some work :thumbsup: :thumbsup:
One of the positives for being 44 is that I'm still considered young as a blues guitarist :thumbsup:
One thing I regret is retiring from playing hockey 18 years ago. I returned to the ice in 2010 and lost most of my timing and confidence, but my stamina has improved greatly (thanks to riding my bike around 120 kms a week all spring, summer and fall... and I'm still riding, depending on the weather). If I didn't retire, I'd be one of the best players on the ice (guys that are better than me now I could skate rings around back in the day). I still have aspirations of getting some of my old mojo back in a few years, provided I can play more often.
I've been working out/weight-training since my late teens, but now I focus more on overall fitness. However, recently I've been doing strength training again since I want to be stronger on the puck during my hockey games. In my early 30s I weighed 187-90, but now I'm 165lbs. I can still bench a fair bit of weight and my legs are strong, but I don't need to tell you one of the bad things about being older is that our backs start to undermine our everyday lives. Who here hasn't had issues with their back? A show of hands. I bet few to none.
By the time I get to Port Chester, I'll be 45. Mentally, I'm still a sixth grade boy. It doesn't age all that graceFully, as if I care.
Thanks for sharing tdb810, as a father of a 15 year old ( my only child ) I can relate to much of what you said. I think it's great that you daughter likes the band and you can share in those experiences with her. I really wish I had that with my girl. Our musical tastes are the complete opposite. Some day she will come around I hope.
As for me turning 46 in the next couple months I feel the same physically as I did in my 20's & 30's except for the uncontrollable urge to take a nap on the weekends. I also can't drink booze like I used to. No alcohol during the week. It takes me 2 days to recover from a long night out drinking so I just don't do it as much.
I find my biggest adversary as I get older is gravity.
Quote from: Jaimoe on Dec 05, 2012, 12:32 AM
I'm fitter at 44 than I was at 34; tougher too. Age is just a number, but many get old in their late 20s, which is pathetic.
When I graduated from High school I was 5'8" 165 lbs with a 28" waist, today I'm 5'11" 195 LBS and 34" waist with a little muffin top and ass crack visible.
Quote from: Taterbug on Dec 05, 2012, 11:51 AM
Quote from: Jaimoe on Dec 05, 2012, 12:32 AM
I'm fitter at 44 than I was at 34; tougher too. Age is just a number, but many get old in their late 20s, which is pathetic.
When I graduated from High school I was 5'8" 165 lbs with a 28" waist, today I'm 5'11" 195 LBS and 34" waist with a little muffin top and ass crack visible.
Please stop teasing me this way.
Quote from: Jaimoe on Dec 05, 2012, 12:32 AM
I'm fitter at 44 than I was at 34; tougher too. Age is just a number, but many get old in their late 20s, which is pathetic.
This.
I'll be 44 in about three weeks (NYE, the 2008 MSG show was my 40th birthday present to myself). I am certainly in the best shape of my life, and I'd like to think I am in the best place I have ever been mentally/psychologically as well. Of course that's assuming you place a high value on retaining a youthful carefree outlook about life.
It's a bit easier for me though, as my wife and I never had children, choosing instead to remain somewhat selfishly childlike ourselves. I really respect those that have children and chose the more typically responsible route, with it's attendant responsibilities, and remain youthful and changeable. Too many I think, whether with regard to music, or any other definable position, become set in what they concluded in their 20s or 30s, and never adjust those beliefs or preferences - despite new information.
I am happily very different than I was in my 20s, and very different than I was in my 30s, I try to always be growing. It keeps life fresh and interesting, and makes getting older - as many have said, just a number.
I also got married for the first time at 38 to a woman 9 years younger. That in itself keeps me young, but I have youthful genetics and still no grey hair!
Quote from: Jaimoe on Dec 05, 2012, 12:16 PM
I also got married for the first time at 38 to a woman 9 years younger. That in itself keeps me young, but I have youthful genetics and still no grey hair!
Funny, I got married for the ONLY time when I was 20 and have a shitload of gray hair. I started getting gray in my late 20's. I'm just happy I still have hair although I'm not to happy about those hairs that seem to sprout overnight in my ears, nose. I had a nipple hair that was in excess of 6" long.
any reason why you started this thread today? :wink:
I can't comment on this yet. I'll let you know tomorrow.
Quote from: ItBeats4Jew on Dec 05, 2012, 12:37 PM
any reason why you started this thread today? :wink:
I can't comment on this yet. I'll let you know tomorrow.
Well, your impending 40th did have me thinking a lot about being over 40! But I have thought about starting this thread for a while. There are lots of young'uns on the forum and they are super nice people, but I think there are some things that only us old folks can relate to.
Quote from: Taterbug on Dec 05, 2012, 12:25 PM
Quote from: Jaimoe on Dec 05, 2012, 12:16 PM
I also got married for the first time at 38 to a woman 9 years younger. That in itself keeps me young, but I have youthful genetics and still no grey hair!
Funny, I got married for the ONLY time when I was 20 and have a shitload of gray hair. I started getting gray in my late 20's. I'm just happy I still have hair although I'm not to happy about those hairs that seem to sprout overnight in my ears, nose. I had a nipple hair that was in excess of 6" long.
LOL! My wife hates me that I haven't started turning grey yet! She has her greys colored but she points a new one out to me everytime one pops up in her hair. :smiley: I'm starting to notice one pop up in my beard every now and again so I figure it won't be long. No biggie though. Like you said Tater, at least I still have a full head of hair and that is more important to me than turning grey!
Trish, thanks for sharing about your being a working mom. My wife is a working mom as well. Although, she teaches so she gets 3 months to be a stay at home mom and by the time August rolls around, she is more than ready to go back to work! :grin: I don't know if I'd still have children or a wife if she were a full time stay at home mom. :tongue: We were always kind of annoyed with most stay at home moms that we know/knew. It seemed as though they were just making shit up for themselves to do because they didn't have anything else to do? And then, their kids started going to school and then they REALLY had nothing to do?! And it also seemed like they tried to go out of their way to do things to make my wife feel bad about being a working mom (never worked :grin: ).
As for the age being a number thing, (I'm 42 btw) I have to totally agree. While I can't brag about being in better shape now than I was in my 20's and 30's, I'm happy and that is all that really matters. I'm not totally out of shape as I try to walk my 2 labs on a daily basis (well, that is when my broken foot heals all the way... :undecided:; maybe bones getting brittle is another negative of being over 40 as this was my first ever broken bone and I did it slipping on our damn steps? :tongue:) But then again, I'm not going to the gym or to the pool to swim laps like I used to in my 20's either.
One thing I love about this band is that when you go to a show, you don't feel like you are the elder statesman in the crowd. I sort of did hanging by the pool at Forecastle, but I also remember thinking that all of those young whipper snappers were looking at us and hoping they would still be doing this when they were our age as well! :beer: I also love that my wife and I are both totally into this band. We've always shared similar interests in music but nothing like both of our obsessiveness over this band! Its so great to be able to have a partner who is crazy enough about this band to drop everything and travel to NY or KY for 3 days just to see this band! :thumbsup:
And Tater, I'm with you on the drinking. The body just doesn't recover quite like it used to in my younger days.
Quote from: Taterbug on Dec 05, 2012, 12:25 PM
Quote from: Jaimoe on Dec 05, 2012, 12:16 PM
I also got married for the first time at 38 to a woman 9 years younger. That in itself keeps me young, but I have youthful genetics and still no grey hair!
Funny, I got married for the ONLY time when I was 20 and have a shitload of gray hair. I started getting gray in my late 20's. I'm just happy I still have hair although I'm not to happy about those hairs that seem to sprout overnight in my ears, nose. I had a nipple hair that was in excess of 6" long.
I can't take much more of this!
Quote from: Fully on Dec 05, 2012, 01:04 PM
Quote from: Taterbug on Dec 05, 2012, 12:25 PM
Quote from: Jaimoe on Dec 05, 2012, 12:16 PM
I also got married for the first time at 38 to a woman 9 years younger. That in itself keeps me young, but I have youthful genetics and still no grey hair!
Funny, I got married for the ONLY time when I was 20 and have a shitload of gray hair. I started getting gray in my late 20's. I'm just happy I still have hair although I'm not to happy about those hairs that seem to sprout overnight in my ears, nose. I had a nipple hair that was in excess of 6" long.
I can't take much more of this!
Sorry Fully if you read that while eating lunch.
Quote from: Taterbug on Dec 05, 2012, 01:21 PM
Quote from: Fully on Dec 05, 2012, 01:04 PM
Quote from: Taterbug on Dec 05, 2012, 12:25 PM
Quote from: Jaimoe on Dec 05, 2012, 12:16 PM
I also got married for the first time at 38 to a woman 9 years younger. That in itself keeps me young, but I have youthful genetics and still no grey hair!
Funny, I got married for the ONLY time when I was 20 and have a shitload of gray hair. I started getting gray in my late 20's. I'm just happy I still have hair although I'm not to happy about those hairs that seem to sprout overnight in my ears, nose. I had a nipple hair that was in excess of 6" long.
I can't take much more of this!
Sorry Fully if you read that while eating lunch.
I was reading it in a room full of kids who are taking practice standardized tests and your 6 ft long nipple hair is just too much. A woman can only take so much. Snorting is something that has become more common since I've aged. You are making me snort way too much! :grin:
Also I've noticed that as I gotten older I no longer feel need to figure " IT " out , the meaning of life and religious enlightenment. I have lived my life without knowing "IT" and can happily live the rest of it without "IT" . So as I've come to the conclusion that refusing to look for "IT is "IT" ( in my mind ) , if that makes any sense.
Quote from: Taterbug on Dec 05, 2012, 03:54 PM
Also I've noticed that as I gotten older I no longer feel need to figure " IT " out , the meaning of life and religious enlightenment. I have lived my life without knowing "IT" and can happily live the rest of it without "IT" . So as I've come to the conclusion that refusing to look for "IT is "IT" ( in my mind ) , if that makes any sense.
wow, as someone who has a very limited amount of days left in their 40's I can totally relate to this thread.
Figuring "IT" out is always a journey but a couple of musical quotes that I like to live by and have worked over the years
"The secret of life is enjoying the passage of time." James Taylor
"If you want to give God a laugh, tell him your plans" Mike Scott (The Waterboys)
"It's got to be the going, not the getting there that's good." Harry Chapin
Life is a journey, music has always been a very special friend to and for me and makes everything better. Mostly the more you learn and the more you know, the more you realize there is to learn and how much you don't know. I'm much better now about taking things in stride than I used to be.
It all goes by a heck of a lot faster than you ever thought it would. Enjoy the ride.
I'm 41 for a few more months. Like Trish, I didn't mind turning 40 but getting older than that is freaking me out a little. I need reading glasses now!
I sort of gave up drinking (and smoking cigarettes) for the most part in my early 30s when I passed out mid show (Guided By Voices) in the women's bathroom in Detroit (tho I don't live in the States) and woke up after the staff had cleaned the venue and shut off the lights. That scared me out of excessive drinking pretty much forever. I still drink a few beers a year but I don't/can't party like I used to. However, now that I am in my 40's, I don't really care. I do, however, have a nightly toke after the kids go to bed. :evil:
My body, with better nutrition and about the same amount of exercise is NOT any fitter than it used to be. In fact, I've grown into what I call "a fat Irish housewife" and that is starting to take it's toll. I hate exercise! But, I am at peace with myself. I am more in love with my husband than ever and watching that relationship deepen over the years is a kick. I'm very lucky to have a husband who is OK with my having an imaginary rock boyfriend :cheesy:
You know the weird thing about being over 40: I really know myself well and I have a wider understanding of the world and it's parts (not complete, mind you) and I keep thinking, "I could totally have been a theoretical physicist," "I should have been a doctor," "if only graphic design on computers was a thing when I was a teen!" etc, etc. I sort of feel like I could be anything with enough training. I feel smart and capable.
And yet, at the same time, I'll always be a misfit 20yo who feels a little inadequate and incompetent.
And, btw, can I just say that I adore this group of folks. Really and truly. :thumbsup:
love everyone's comments, and adore you all too :)
Leanne, the part about feeling smart and capable -- yes! i wish i had felt this confident at a younger age, but happy to have it now. :thumbsup: :thumbsup:
I am much more open minded than I ever dreamed I would be and friendlier.
My conservative uncle told me when I was in my late teens that you grow more conservative as you get older. Well guess what Uncle Bill? That hasn't happened nor will it.
Just turned 40 in August and in the two haircuts I've gotten since then the woman cutting my hair has asked if I wanted my eyebrows trimmed. This never happened before. Also, while the sideburns are getting trimmed and over/around the ears, the earlobes get clippered now.
And that's just on my cranial region! The rest of me is also a nightmare.
Hair. Fucking. Grows. Everywhere. On. Me. Now.
Quote from: bunk_moreland on Dec 06, 2012, 12:17 AM
Just turned 40 in August and in the two haircuts I've gotten since then the woman cutting my hair has asked if I wanted my eyebrows trimmed. This never happened before. Also, while the sideburns are getting trimmed and over/around the ears, the earlobes get clippered now.
And that's just on my cranial region! The rest of me is also a nightmare.
Hair. Fucking. Grows. Everywhere. On. Me. Now.
It's the same for females. I could have a full beard if I ever completely give up on life.
I also have not grown more conservative, and I've always been more open-minded. I have found lately that I am much slower at returning graded papers to my students, but I've always hated grading.
I don't mind getting older at all, but I like to be around people of all ages. I have 18 year old friends and 92 year old friends and plenty in between. I'm always sad when I meet younger people who don't see anything other than my age and think that will automatically mean that we have nothing in common. When I was in my twenties, one of my best friends was 63. We have a great many newer teachers at my school this year, and it has mystified me how they are only interested in each other and not the older teachers. It feels like we are invisible. When I first started teaching I gained so much from my relationships with the older, more experienced, and wiser teachers. One day they will figure it out.
Quote from: Fully on Dec 06, 2012, 09:19 AM
We have a great many newer teachers at my school this year, and it has mystified me how they are only interested in each other and not the older teachers. It feels like we are invisible. When I first started teaching I gained so much from my relationships with the older, more experienced, and wiser teachers. One day they will figure it out.
Fully, my wife is not quite 40 yet but she's getting close, but she is getting close to having 20 years of teaching under her and she too has noticed that many of the newer teachers stick to themselves and don't really seek out the wisdom of the more experienced teachers at all. It is as if they think they know more about teaching coming out of college and their limited amount in the classroom than those that have been teaching with 15-20 years or more of classroom experience?! Hell, she's even been getting college students who act as if they know more about teaching than my wife?!
You are so right about what these newer teachers are missing out on by not seeking out and soaking up what veteran teachers could pass on to them. I remember when my wife started out, she was given a mentor teacher to guide her through her first year and she was sooooo appreciative of the knowledge she gained from having that mentor. Not surprising that this is no longer practiced in her school... :rolleyes:
Quote from: Jaimoe on Dec 06, 2012, 12:07 AM
My conservative uncle told me when I was in my late teens that you grow more conservative as you get older. Well guess what Uncle Bill? That hasn't happened nor will it.
I think the key is this info was being passed onto you by a conservative. Possibly wishful thinking on the part of your conservative uncle? :wink:
If anything, I have become much more liberal the older I get! On the other hand, my wife's conservative sister and her husband have indeed gotten much more conservative the older they get. I just think it's a matter of which way you lean to start with... :cool:
Quote from: Tracy 2112 on Dec 05, 2012, 12:19 AM
I ain't complainin' but i can fall asleep in 3 minutes no matter where I am or what time it is.
i love this..
Quote from: Fully on Dec 05, 2012, 11:30 AM
I'm still a sixth grade boy.
don't ever change...lol...and never learn how to drive...highlight of forecastle (almost) was getting into a car with you and you said 'i'm not a very good driver' then we run smack into the parking meter thing and nearly get killed twice on the road. :cool: :thumbsup: XOX
This is by far my favorite thread--I'll be joining you in a few years and I hope to reach the point you seem to be at mentally. I've never mastered the chilling out factor as I'm as high strung as they come, but I'm hoping it'll come as I age. I think traveling around a lot and living in a big city has kept me young but lately (as I'm plucking the mother f_cking grey hairs) I'm beginning to feel it.
tater---i bet that motorcycle keeps you young!
i want TEO and Crazy to chime in here!
Tdb--great post!
Quote from: Penny Lane on Dec 06, 2012, 10:55 AM
Quote from: Fully on Dec 05, 2012, 11:30 AM
I'm still a sixth grade boy.
don't ever change...lol...and never learn how to drive...highlight of forecastle (almost) was getting into a car with you and you said 'i'm not a very good driver' then we run smack into the parking meter thing and nearly get killed twice on the road. :cool: :thumbsup: XOX
I'm still really thankful that I didn't bust my tire on that curb. My husband has not been told about this, btw. Actually, I'm just a poor driver in areas that I'm not super familiar in, but I would completely understand if you didn't believe me :rolleyes:
Quote from: Penny Lane on Dec 06, 2012, 10:58 AM
This is by far my favorite thread--I'll be joining you in a few years and I hope to reach the point you seem to be at mentally. I've never mastered the chilling out factor as I'm as high strung as they come, but I'm hoping it'll come as I age. I think traveling around a lot and living in a big city has kept me young but lately (as I'm plucking the mother f_cking grey hairs) I'm beginning to feel it.
tater---i bet that motorcycle keeps you young!
i want TEO and Crazy to chime in here!
Tdb--great post!
Penny, the bike is a great stress reliever. Every saturday & sunday morning ( weather permittiing ) I put my ear buds in and the 1st song on my playlist labeled Long Ride is At Dawn. It's a lazy form of jogging I guess :grin:
I'm 44 for a few more months. I didn't have any gray hairs until about 6 months ago when they started to appear at my temples. My first and only daughter just turned two (2!) last Friday. Coincidence? I totally understand, now, why you're supposed to have your kids when you're in your twenties. I.Am.Exhausted.ALWAYS.
I was also at my fittest in my late twenties and early thirties. I didn't have to work hard at it, tho I certainly wasn't skinny bones jones, but I was "fit" and could swim two miles or run 6 without much thought. In my mid 30's all I needed to do was sign up for a 10k or a marathon or whatever and I would be motivated enough to do it. Now, oh I still sign up for them (hello Eugene Marathon 2013) but getting the miles in, in any amount, is a huge, huge problem for me now. Time isn't what it used to be.
Turns out when you get older you can't eat burritos, pizza and drink copious amounts of wine everyday (though I still try!), do absolutely no exercise and expect to still slip into the pants in you drawer. Any of them. Sigh. Still, I wouldn't change a thing I suppose, and having this family of MMJ crazies sure does help to remember that I'm really not crazy at all for living the way I (we) do. Plenty of people travel for bands, and have jobs, and have families of their own, and are happy. So now I think of myself as an overweight french woman who is happy in the kitchen, with a bottle of wine....
Also: I would go fucking crazy if I were a stay at home mom; I don't know how my mom did it, and she had four of us! It's way harder to stay at home than it is to come to the office and "get away from it all." I don't have to vacuum here, or do the dishes......
Quote from: vespachick on Dec 06, 2012, 12:01 PM
I'm 44 for a few more months. I didn't have any gray hairs until about 6 months ago when they started to appear at my temples. My first and only daughter just turned two (2!) last Friday. Coincidence? I totally understand, now, why you're supposed to have your kids when you're in your twenties. I.Am.Exhausted.ALWAYS.
Trust me, it gets worse in their 3's?! At least mine were. Hell, my youngest just turned 7 and I swear she's still in her terrible 2's every now and again!!! :cheesy: My wife and I always say, if she had been born first, she'd be an only child! :tongue:
Quote from: iLikeBeer on Dec 06, 2012, 12:10 PM
Quote from: vespachick on Dec 06, 2012, 12:01 PM
I'm 44 for a few more months. I didn't have any gray hairs until about 6 months ago when they started to appear at my temples. My first and only daughter just turned two (2!) last Friday. Coincidence? I totally understand, now, why you're supposed to have your kids when you're in your twenties. I.Am.Exhausted.ALWAYS.
Trust me, it gets worse in their 3's?! At least mine were. Hell, my youngest just turned 7 and I swear she's still in her terrible 2's every now and again!!! :cheesy: My wife and I always say, if she had been born first, she'd be an only child! :tongue:
Vespa, I just gotta tell ya my wife and I think your daughter is just the cutest thing, I just wanna pinch her cheeks.
ok, now that today is the big day, I can officially comment on this thread with some authority. Unforutnately, bunk is absolutely spot on. The hair where I don't want it and the continuing scarcity of hair where I do is the biggest drawback so far. But if you would have told me when I was 20 years old that I'd have done a 1/2 Ironman in the year that I turned 40, I would have laughed you right off of my cheeto and bongwater stained couch.
Quote from: Taterbug on Dec 06, 2012, 12:23 PM
Quote from: iLikeBeer on Dec 06, 2012, 12:10 PM
Quote from: vespachick on Dec 06, 2012, 12:01 PM
I'm 44 for a few more months. I didn't have any gray hairs until about 6 months ago when they started to appear at my temples. My first and only daughter just turned two (2!) last Friday. Coincidence? I totally understand, now, why you're supposed to have your kids when you're in your twenties. I.Am.Exhausted.ALWAYS.
Trust me, it gets worse in their 3's?! At least mine were. Hell, my youngest just turned 7 and I swear she's still in her terrible 2's every now and again!!! :cheesy: My wife and I always say, if she had been born first, she'd be an only child! :tongue:
Vespa, I just gotta tell ya my wife and I think your daughter is just the cutest thing, I just wanna pinch her cheeks.
Thanks Tater! She sure is a handful of cute; gets craftier every day.
Beer, a have a friend who keeps telling me that 3 is the worst. I, um, cannot wait? The upside of that is my step-daughter may well be old enough (in her attitude) to actually babysit her alone by then. ("Mama's gotta go the record store, you girls stay here.....")
Happy birthday ItBeats! Welcome to le club! :beer:
by the way, the cheetos have now been replaced with whole grain, organic, whole foods cheese snacks and the bongwater has been replaced with more frequently changed bongwater.
:grin: :grin: :grin:
Now that I'll be closer to 50 than 40 is it ok to buy a pair of these ?
(http://i.walmartimages.com/i/p/00/01/71/36/73/0001713673868_500X500.jpg)
Damn Tater! Those look comfy!
I frakked up my right foot this summer from wearing cheap flats (think ballet flats as opposed to "not high heels") and I am in near constant pain or discomfort. I would totally buy those shoes right now!
Vespa, your overweight French woman and my fat Irish housewife make us a veritable UN up in here!
Also, wtf is with face hair on old girls?! I swear, if I didn't pluck those damned things I'd have one of those hipster Amish beards.
*pokes head in*
This thread smells funny.
*slams door*
Quote from: jones on Dec 06, 2012, 02:38 PM
*pokes head in*
This thread smells funny.
*slams door*
:grin: :grin: It's a combo of Old Spice, Ben Gay & Incense to hide the smell of weed and cats, come on back in so you can rub my feet and work on my bunions.
Quote from: Taterbug on Dec 06, 2012, 03:00 PM
Quote from: jones on Dec 06, 2012, 02:38 PM
*pokes head in*
This thread smells funny.
*slams door*
:grin: :grin: It's a combo of Old Spice, Ben Gay & Incense to hide the smell of weed and cats, come on back in so you can rub my feet and work on my bunions.
I'm partial to Brut and Aqua Velva myself... :tongue:
Quote from: iLikeBeer on Dec 06, 2012, 05:34 PM
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Quote from: jones on Dec 06, 2012, 02:38 PM
*pokes head in*
This thread smells funny.
*slams door*
:grin: :grin: It's a combo of Old Spice, Ben Gay & Incense to hide the smell of weed and cats, come on back in so you can rub my feet and work on my bunions.
I'm partial to Brut and Aqua Velva myself... :tongue:
I have a half of a bottle of Aqua Velva aftershave that if I used it I would have to change my facebook profile to single.
As someone who is turning 30 in less than two months I'm really enjoying reading this thread.
I'm jealous of those who are keeping their hair, as mine seems to keep disappearing down the shower drain each morning...along with going grey day after day
I'm still at a point in my life where I'm searching for "it" and wondering if I'll ever find "it." So knowing that there's others out there who haven't found "it" but are quite happy is pleasing to hear.
I keep hearing "your 30s will be the best years of your life," and I'm certainly hoping so.
As long as I'm as cool as all of you when I get to my 40s, then I'll consider my first 40 or so years well spent.
*puts on wise old sage hat*
*takes off wise old sage hat, puts on WILD old sage hat instead*
I spent my whole life searching for it and I find that if you are continually searching for it you will never find it. That's the way it all works.
Instead, focus on what excites you right this very moment and do that. Do it till you do it really well. And then listen to what your gut tells you the next exciting thing is and do that. I guarantee that tho you may not find great wealth this way, you may find happiness and fulfillment this way, which will make you richer than you could possibly imagine.
OK, I'll stop being a twat now :wink:
I usually have to do the math now when someone asks how old I am. I am...43, yeah, 43.
I love being bald, I cut my own hair, and I don't have to worry about how it looks! Half of my hair (beard too) is gray, but I don't care. Oy, the hair on the ears, though!
I don't get carded a whole bunch, but I live in a college town, where most places card EVERYBODY.
My work is way less stressful now than 10 years ago, and I do get to fly and drive all over the country to see shows or whatever the hell else I want to do.
Count me among those who are in better shape now than they were in their 30s, though it's fallen off a bit after the Turning-40-Shaping-Up blitz. I do a lot of yoga and run a little. My back gets a little sore if I don't sleep on my side. I can pee for about half an hour.
I feel good.
Young@Heart - Schizophrenia (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VDUOpcic0jE#)
This thread has been great. I pictured most of you much younger than me. I turn 40 in a few months
Pros:
Most comfortable in who I am
Awesome family in great place
Staying fit
More secure professionally
Experience
14 year easy marriage
Cons
Hairy man and getting more so each day
Carpal tunnel - I thought this was a made up ailment but it sucks
Back pain
Grey hair - daughter told me she loves my hair color, black & white
Effort keeping weight off
My concert buddy is my older brother. We were talking about how our generation seems to stay younger mentally than previous. Feels like we keep up with music, tech, pop culture, tv etc way more than our dad did.
this is the first time i've seen this thread: you kids are hilarious!
something i love about getting older: gaining perspective. unexpected and wonderful.
i've been single for the last 9 years and when i passed 40 my mom finally stopped bugging me to have kids. still bothers her that i am single. she doesn't understand that i enjoy being alone.
unlike most of you i'm in the crummiest shape i've ever been in. it's gotten really weird in the last year or so.
it's 9:30 pm. i'm going to crash a poker party at the home of some older-childless friends and bring some knitting. RAGER! :beer:
Best thing about getting older - I have confidence that I never had in my younger years. Mainly because I don't place any importance on what people that I don't care about think (or don't think) about me. Sounds simple now, not so simple years or decades ago.
Quote from: lucylew on Jan 06, 2013, 12:44 AM
Best thing about getting older - I have confidence that I never had in my younger years. Mainly because I don't place any importance on what people that I don't care about think (or don't think) about me. Sounds simple now, not so simple years or decades ago.
I know exactly what you mean. Actually, when I was younger, even into my early 30s, I was shy and more of a follower. Now I tell people what I think, get up in faces and don't give a fuck if I offend, as long as I think I'm right - or at least being sensible. I also like someone with opinions. Those that are complacent or "I don't know, I like everything and don't like getting involved" can go away.
I don't like this about me, but I was single until 31. I was never a player or a man whore - I haaaate those assholes. I was simply always looking for Miss Right and didn't think it was fair and honest to play the field because I know I'm a good catch. I must say shy and overly selective made for a pretty frustrating early life, but it did pay off in the long run since I met my wife and first true girlfriend 12 years ago. Late bloomers are more interesting anyway, right? As I always say, I'm a work in progress. Finished products are boring.
Quote from: Jaimoe on Jan 06, 2013, 10:15 AM
I know exactly what you mean. Actually, when I was younger, even into my early 30s, I was shy and more of a follower. Now I tell people what I think, get up in faces and don't give a fuck if I offend, as long as I think I'm right - or at least being sensible. I also like someone with opinions. Those that are complacent or "I don't know, I like everything and don't like getting involved" can go away.
But I thought you were infatuated with Japanese culture. :wink:
Quote from: Jaimoe on Jan 06, 2013, 10:15 AM
I don't like this about me, but I was single until 31. I was never a player or a man whore - I haaaate those assholes. I was simply always looking for Miss Right and didn't think it was fair and honest to play the field because I know I'm a good catch. I must say shy and overly selective made for a pretty frustrating early life, but it did pay off in the long run since I met my wife and first true girlfriend 12 years ago. Late bloomers are more interesting anyway, right? As I always say, I'm a work in progress. Finished products are boring.
Your story sounds very similar to mine Jaimoe! :thumbsup:
I got married when I was 30 and it was much to do with the fact that I was extremely picky in looking for Mrs. Right. I had a couple of serious relationships when I was in college, but nothing serious between when I graduated college and when I started dating my wife.
I too was shy and I'm sure this played a role in things, but all in all, I just didn't want to settle on someone just to finally get married and start a family. And I'm extremely happy I didn't settle because I've been happily married for 12 years now and it's been almost 14 wonderful years total spent with my wonderful wife! :beer:
Let me add my 20+ years over 40 perspective to all you youngin's posts.
It's true, when you get to be a certain age, you just don't give a rat's ass about what you say; in public; to anyone; at anytime! (of course, I've never had a problem with shyness!)
You realize that getting into bed is just as easy as it was in your twenties( :wink: :wink:)but getting out is a whole different story. It takes a while to warm up those joints(and not the kind you think, Tater)
Working out and Exercise? I think about it all the time, but it just seems like so much work!
Who is that old lady looking back at me in the mirror? My heart and my mind keep telling me I'm 21, so why does that stupid mirror lie to me like that?
Love never fades. TEO and I are celebrating 25 years in February. He is still the man of my dreams. And he gets better looking every day. Even with his snow white stache!(very not fair)
The joy I get from my kids and grandkids never ceases to amaze me(I do get mad at them from time to time, but come on, they do have my annoying bossy gene). My 14 year old granddaughter and I have our own secret language, love to go shopping and she makes me laugh like I'm still 14. My grandsons ALWAYS have my back,( so don't even think about messing with me!) And,At least I'm still cool to them!
The kids think we are "somewhat" strange in our taste in music and that we hang out with people half our age and younger.
I've paid the price to get where I am today. I have a job I love as Executive Director of the Chamber of Commerce for 2 small towns in our township. Pretty much come and go when I please and plan parties(members luncheons, etc) with people I like, but don't have to socialize with outside of work! Of course, unless I want too!
And much like everyone else on here has said, I've met some of the best people ever through our mutual love of MMJ. I guess it's true, religion brings you closer together.
All this talk about finding IT and knowing yourself! I don't think I will ever come to realize either, fully!(no pun intended, Beth) I'm continuing to grow, still looking for IT, finding myself and all that crap. If I find it, I'll let you know! I'm just not sure I ever want to stop the search!
I hope I'm still here and posting when all of you turn 60! Geesh, that will make me 80 something, but I'm sure I will still want to hear all of you youngins' take on getting older!
Believe me, it ain't all fun and games, but I wouldn't want to be anyplace else in my life, I MIGHT change a few things, but for the most part, I still want to be me! :thumbsup:
Quote from: iLikeBeer on Jan 07, 2013, 11:01 AM
Quote from: Jaimoe on Jan 06, 2013, 10:15 AM
I don't like this about me, but I was single until 31. I was never a player or a man whore - I haaaate those assholes. I was simply always looking for Miss Right and didn't think it was fair and honest to play the field because I know I'm a good catch. I must say shy and overly selective made for a pretty frustrating early life, but it did pay off in the long run since I met my wife and first true girlfriend 12 years ago. Late bloomers are more interesting anyway, right? As I always say, I'm a work in progress. Finished products are boring.
Your story sounds very similar to mine Jaimoe! :thumbsup:
I got married when I was 30 and it was much to do with the fact that I was extremely picky in looking for Mrs. Right. I had a couple of serious relationships when I was in college, but nothing serious between when I graduated college and when I started dating my wife.
I too was shy and I'm sure this played a role in things, but all in all, I just didn't want to settle on someone just to finally get married and start a family. And I'm extremely happy I didn't settle because I've been happily married for 12 years now and it's been almost 14 wonderful years total spent with my wonderful wife! :beer:
I enjoy reading these, because they're me 100%. I always find myself strange because Im the only one of all my friends that isn't going to bars to find some sleezy pay. I wouldn't say Im shy, even. I would say that I just don't really give shit about putting in so much work to "play the field". At the same time, I'm in a 3-year relationship right now. Recently I've realized that this ain't the relationship that will always be, and it's because I'm incredibly picky. She's a fantastic human, but just not for me anymore. But, I love my pickiness because I rarely settle in any aspect of life. I plan on being unmarried through out my 20s. I have too much going on that I love by myself, like school, traveling for MMJ, bettering my self in general, etc.
I'm not over 40 (I'm barely over half way there), but this is a good thread.
On a related not-shy-anymore note, I get more compliments from my female friends and some of their friends than I ever did when I was younger. Perhaps I wasn't noticing girls looking my way back then. Anyway, I think if you have confidence, you'll attract more attention. Being fitter than when I was at 23 certainly helps though.
Very big birthday coming up for me this year. I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. I think I hit my stride around 40 and I'm in full on sprint mode now :cheesy:
Quote from: exist10z on Dec 05, 2012, 12:04 PM
Quote from: Jaimoe on Dec 05, 2012, 12:32 AM
I'm fitter at 44 than I was at 34; tougher too. Age is just a number, but many get old in their late 20s, which is pathetic.
This.
I'll be 44 in about three weeks (NYE, the 2008 MSG show was my 40th birthday present to myself). I am certainly in the best shape of my life, and I'd like to think I am in the best place I have ever been mentally/psychologically as well. Of course that's assuming you place a high value on retaining a youthful carefree outlook about life.
It's a bit easier for me though, as my wife and I never had children, choosing instead to remain somewhat selfishly childlike ourselves. I really respect those that have children and chose the more typically responsible route, with it's attendant responsibilities, and remain youthful and changeable. Too many I think, whether with regard to music, or any other definable position, become set in what they concluded in their 20s or 30s, and never adjust those beliefs or preferences - despite new information.
I am happily very different than I was in my 20s, and very different than I was in my 30s, I try to always be growing. It keeps life fresh and interesting, and makes getting older - as many have said, just a number.
This is just heartbreaking to read :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
Quote from: mahg33ta on Jan 07, 2013, 05:23 PM
Quote from: exist10z on Dec 05, 2012, 12:04 PM
Quote from: Jaimoe on Dec 05, 2012, 12:32 AM
I'm fitter at 44 than I was at 34; tougher too. Age is just a number, but many get old in their late 20s, which is pathetic.
This.
I'll be 44 in about three weeks (NYE, the 2008 MSG show was my 40th birthday present to myself). I am certainly in the best shape of my life, and I'd like to think I am in the best place I have ever been mentally/psychologically as well. Of course that's assuming you place a high value on retaining a youthful carefree outlook about life.
It's a bit easier for me though, as my wife and I never had children, choosing instead to remain somewhat selfishly childlike ourselves. I really respect those that have children and chose the more typically responsible route, with it's attendant responsibilities, and remain youthful and changeable. Too many I think, whether with regard to music, or any other definable position, become set in what they concluded in their 20s or 30s, and never adjust those beliefs or preferences - despite new information.
I am happily very different than I was in my 20s, and very different than I was in my 30s, I try to always be growing. It keeps life fresh and interesting, and makes getting older - as many have said, just a number.
This is just heartbreaking to read :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
Definitely.
Quote from: zanjam on Jan 07, 2013, 05:30 PM
Quote from: mahg33ta on Jan 07, 2013, 05:23 PM
Quote from: exist10z on Dec 05, 2012, 12:04 PM
Quote from: Jaimoe on Dec 05, 2012, 12:32 AM
I'm fitter at 44 than I was at 34; tougher too. Age is just a number, but many get old in their late 20s, which is pathetic.
This.
I'll be 44 in about three weeks (NYE, the 2008 MSG show was my 40th birthday present to myself). I am certainly in the best shape of my life, and I'd like to think I am in the best place I have ever been mentally/psychologically as well. Of course that's assuming you place a high value on retaining a youthful carefree outlook about life.
It's a bit easier for me though, as my wife and I never had children, choosing instead to remain somewhat selfishly childlike ourselves. I really respect those that have children and chose the more typically responsible route, with it's attendant responsibilities, and remain youthful and changeable. Too many I think, whether with regard to music, or any other definable position, become set in what they concluded in their 20s or 30s, and never adjust those beliefs or preferences - despite new information.
I am happily very different than I was in my 20s, and very different than I was in my 30s, I try to always be growing. It keeps life fresh and interesting, and makes getting older - as many have said, just a number.
This is just heartbreaking to read :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
Definitely.
Heartbreaking? I find exit's comments reasonable and inspirational.
So very sad.
Make every day count.
Quote from: Sassbox on Jan 07, 2013, 02:33 PM
Very big birthday coming up for me this year. I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. I think I hit my stride around 40 and I'm in full on sprint mode now :cheesy:
Way to go Sass. :thumbsup:
I'll race ya. :wink:
Quote from: Jaimoe on Jan 07, 2013, 06:16 PM
Quote from: zanjam on Jan 07, 2013, 05:30 PM
Quote from: mahg33ta on Jan 07, 2013, 05:23 PM
Quote from: exist10z on Dec 05, 2012, 12:04 PM
Quote from: Jaimoe on Dec 05, 2012, 12:32 AM
I'm fitter at 44 than I was at 34; tougher too. Age is just a number, but many get old in their late 20s, which is pathetic.
This.
I'll be 44 in about three weeks (NYE, the 2008 MSG show was my 40th birthday present to myself). I am certainly in the best shape of my life, and I'd like to think I am in the best place I have ever been mentally/psychologically as well. Of course that's assuming you place a high value on retaining a youthful carefree outlook about life.
It's a bit easier for me though, as my wife and I never had children, choosing instead to remain somewhat selfishly childlike ourselves. I really respect those that have children and chose the more typically responsible route, with it's attendant responsibilities, and remain youthful and changeable. Too many I think, whether with regard to music, or any other definable position, become set in what they concluded in their 20s or 30s, and never adjust those beliefs or preferences - despite new information.
I am happily very different than I was in my 20s, and very different than I was in my 30s, I try to always be growing. It keeps life fresh and interesting, and makes getting older - as many have said, just a number.
This is just heartbreaking to read :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
Definitely.
Heartbreaking? I find exit's comments reasonable and inspirational.
I am so glad that we have this. It sounds like Erik lived every day. It inspires me to do the same. :thumbsup:
Quote from: tdb810 on Jan 07, 2013, 09:14 PM
Quote from: Jaimoe on Jan 07, 2013, 06:16 PM
Quote from: zanjam on Jan 07, 2013, 05:30 PM
Quote from: mahg33ta on Jan 07, 2013, 05:23 PM
Quote from: exist10z on Dec 05, 2012, 12:04 PM
Quote from: Jaimoe on Dec 05, 2012, 12:32 AM
I'm fitter at 44 than I was at 34; tougher too. Age is just a number, but many get old in their late 20s, which is pathetic.
This.
I'll be 44 in about three weeks (NYE, the 2008 MSG show was my 40th birthday present to myself). I am certainly in the best shape of my life, and I'd like to think I am in the best place I have ever been mentally/psychologically as well. Of course that's assuming you place a high value on retaining a youthful carefree outlook about life.
It's a bit easier for me though, as my wife and I never had children, choosing instead to remain somewhat selfishly childlike ourselves. I really respect those that have children and chose the more typically responsible route, with it's attendant responsibilities, and remain youthful and changeable. Too many I think, whether with regard to music, or any other definable position, become set in what they concluded in their 20s or 30s, and never adjust those beliefs or preferences - despite new information.
I am happily very different than I was in my 20s, and very different than I was in my 30s, I try to always be growing. It keeps life fresh and interesting, and makes getting older - as many have said, just a number.
This is just heartbreaking to read :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
Definitely.
Heartbreaking? I find exit's comments reasonable and inspirational.
I am so glad that we have this. It sounds like Erik lived every day. It inspires me to do the same. :thumbsup:
I just found out about Erik. Really sad! I do find his words inspiring though. I hope others will follow his lead and live life to its fullest and keep growing. Erik would approve.
Quote from: Jaimoe on Jan 08, 2013, 10:18 AM
Quote from: tdb810 on Jan 07, 2013, 09:14 PM
Quote from: Jaimoe on Jan 07, 2013, 06:16 PM
Quote from: zanjam on Jan 07, 2013, 05:30 PM
Quote from: mahg33ta on Jan 07, 2013, 05:23 PM
Quote from: exist10z on Dec 05, 2012, 12:04 PM
Quote from: Jaimoe on Dec 05, 2012, 12:32 AM
I'm fitter at 44 than I was at 34; tougher too. Age is just a number, but many get old in their late 20s, which is pathetic.
This.
I'll be 44 in about three weeks (NYE, the 2008 MSG show was my 40th birthday present to myself). I am certainly in the best shape of my life, and I'd like to think I am in the best place I have ever been mentally/psychologically as well. Of course that's assuming you place a high value on retaining a youthful carefree outlook about life.
It's a bit easier for me though, as my wife and I never had children, choosing instead to remain somewhat selfishly childlike ourselves. I really respect those that have children and chose the more typically responsible route, with it's attendant responsibilities, and remain youthful and changeable. Too many I think, whether with regard to music, or any other definable position, become set in what they concluded in their 20s or 30s, and never adjust those beliefs or preferences - despite new information.
I am happily very different than I was in my 20s, and very different than I was in my 30s, I try to always be growing. It keeps life fresh and interesting, and makes getting older - as many have said, just a number.
This is just heartbreaking to read :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry: :cry:
Definitely.
Heartbreaking? I find exit's comments reasonable and inspirational.
I am so glad that we have this. It sounds like Erik lived every day. It inspires me to do the same. :thumbsup:
I just found out about Erik. Really sad! I do find his words inspiring though. I hope others will follow his lead and live life to its fullest and keep growing. Erik would approve.
I agree with Jaimoe. While those words are heartbreaking to read now, they should also be inspirational to all of us to remember to not take anything in our lives for granted and to live everyday to your fullest.
Quote from: ericm on Jan 07, 2013, 09:01 PM
Quote from: Sassbox on Jan 07, 2013, 02:33 PM
Very big birthday coming up for me this year. I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. I think I hit my stride around 40 and I'm in full on sprint mode now :cheesy:
Way to go Sass. :thumbsup:
I'll race ya. :wink:
Deal. Just don't touch my head, maaaaaaaan.
Quote from: Sassbox on Jan 07, 2013, 02:33 PM
Very big birthday coming up for me this year. I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. I think I hit my stride around 40 and I'm in full on sprint mode now :cheesy:
Just make sure to celebrate in a big way. #40 was my best birthday ever:
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Quote from: bunk_moreland on Jan 09, 2013, 01:05 AM
Quote from: Sassbox on Jan 07, 2013, 02:33 PM
Very big birthday coming up for me this year. I wouldn't trade it for anything in the world. I think I hit my stride around 40 and I'm in full on sprint mode now :cheesy:
Just make sure to celebrate in a big way. #40 was my best birthday ever:
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I'm 45 on March 26. Everyone here 40 and over is invited to my birthday bash, but you gotta find your way to Toronto :beer:
Can now claim to to be 40 and over. Spent the week of my 40th at Disney without the kids and ran a marathon and a half. Who says you gots to slow down.
You do not, Michael. I've had more fun in my forties than I even considered in my late twenties and my thirties.
Yeah I'm in this club--crossed over awhile back, went from 30 something to the 40s while tripping on MMJ live and studio. Ya know what? The numbers don't matter to me anymore you feel as good as you want to and that is mostly under your control--exceptions for those of us with troubled genetics obviously. I'm loving life for the most part, in spite of having less of my original body than I arrived with, courtesy of an idiot driver back in '05 (if you've been around here long enough you know what I speak of). I still very much love this forum, even if I know fewer of you less as well as those I've met early on. So here's to us! Who's like us? Damn few! And they're all dead!
Amen, MMJ_fanatic! Glad to see you here. I joined in 2009, so I don't know what happened to you in '05, but appreciate your positive vibe.
Last night, I drank and ------ like I was 22. This morning I remember I am almost 46.
xo, johnny! :grin: :grin:
those mornings are so disappointing. still you've probably got some epic tales from that night. :shocked: