...and I got them bad. :'(
Two words....Smashing Pumpkins.
Try Gish first. Rinse, repeat. You'll replace blues with pissed off! Works like a champion... :D
It's the 'my girlfriend just broke up with me'-blues. Don't know if Smashing Pumpkins will be enough. :'(
guess willie brown was right and it really is like they say in the movies...
'the blues ain't nothin but a good man feelin bad, thinkin bout the woman he used to have'
I suggest James Brown, Live at the Apollo
Thanks for the advice. Brown just might do the trick...
QuoteIt's the 'my girlfriend just broke up with me'-blues. Don't know if Smashing Pumpkins will be enough. :'(
DUDE! You should have said so. Listen to anything by Elliot Smith, or The Cure, or Squeeze...in fact, just listen to Squeeze. Best cure for breakup blues, ever.
That, and endless smoking.
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DUDE! You should have said so. Listen to anything by Elliot Smith, or The Cure, or Squeeze...in fact, just listen to Squeeze. Best cure for breakup blues, ever.
That, and endless smoking.
Hey, it's alright...
Sorry to hear that O. Seemed like a nice girl (loving mmj too and stuff).
Sometimes the most depressing music helps to put everything in perspective again. I would also suggest the cure or Chris Isaak, the wicked game album...
It helps me a lot...
Take care and I hope you get well soon
You'll be fine O. Eventually.
It just takes time.
Afghan Whigs - Gentlemen
and
John Frusciante
Quoteguess willie brown was right and it really is like they say in the movies...
'the blues ain't nothin but a good man feelin bad, thinkin bout the woman he used to have'
I suggest James Brown, Live at the Apollo
Yesterday I went to the record store to buy that one, but there were to albums, one early live album and another one called Live at the Apollo II in a double-disc edition. Wich one do you recommend?
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Yesterday I went to the record store to buy that one, but there were to albums, one early live album and another one called Live at the Apollo II in a double-disc edition. Wich one do you recommend?
don't know bout the apollo II, think that's from another year. the one I love is from 1962, it just got reissued as an expanded edition
http://www.pitchforkmedia.com/record-reviews/b/brown_james/live-at-the-apollo.shtml
Hmm... I still don't know what music I should pick. It needs to be really emotional, but not depressing. The morning after she broke up with me I was at a friend's place where I had stayed over and he put on the first solo album by that Life of Agony guy, Keith Caputo. The second song on that album really hit me, in a good way. But the rest of album didn't, so that's not the one. But... I don't know. Maybe Dinosaur Jr, or something.
Oh, that James Brown album, has it got that emotional ring to it, or is it more like a nice party-album to cheer up with? 'Cuz that sort of albums don't work for me, I've found.
I bought the James Brown album and it's fucking amazing. Thanks for the advice, Riny!
Oh, screw the breakup music and treat fire with fire. I mean, treat the blues with the blues and get "The Big Come Up" and "Thickfreakness" by the most amazing two-piece blues band ever, THE BLACK KEYS. They will restore your lust for life!
Shit or bust - try Scars by Soil. Its a 'kill or cure' type approach.
I would recommend Soul Mining by the The. Featuring such uplifting lyrics as 'The cancer of love has eaten out my heart'. No really, you should buy it.
The last time i got dumped i listened to Interpol's album a lot.
O
How you doing?
Hmm... good question. I feel a little better, but still fucked. But to answer your question properly, I should get really personal. I don't really mind doing that, but I wanna ask everyone to read this only if you're really interested, otherwise please skip it:
I kinda know what the reason is now. There was some friction between us, some tension, some things left unsaid that eventually got too much for her. And in a way, that makes me capable of accepting it, 'cuz well, I also had some stuff from her that irritated me and I also felt that we couldn't really speak in an adult way, so maybe it was all for the best... But then again, if we had worked on that, I think we could have made it. And now I wanna talk to her, but she doesn't want to. So it's acceptance on one hand, frustration on the other. And I still have my breakdowns. But you know... People caring, asking me how I am, stuff like that, it helps a lot.
Oh, if I start to sound like a teenager, tell me. She was my first love and all, so it's really a bit childish. Anyway. Thanks for asking.
QuoteShe was my first love and all, so it's really a bit childish
Not at all. Everyone's first love stays with them in one form or another, be it memories or just feelings, and it's usually the most intense one...so batton down the hatches, 'cause it's harder to get over the first one. You'll be fine, though-I have a feeling you'll be using this as fodder for artistic expression, which is the healthiest thing ever, IMHO.
QuoteAfghan Whigs - Gentlemen
i have to say, Gentlemen by the whigs is one of my personal faves. the altimate breakup album i think.
music always helps, there's always someone who knew just how you feel and wrote a song about it (like "broken heart" by the spiritualized). i'd also recommand Doves ("sea song", "satellites"), i think they have the same epic, warm sound that MMJ have.
wish you Love and all the best
take care
Right now I'm always thinking it was a good thing she broke up with me, 'cuz I'm really creative at the moment. I've started painting, I'm drawing, I'm writing a lot of songs...
It's good to hear that O.
Keep it going.
Okay, glad to hear you're getting over it O.
But if you still feel some depri mood is coming up and you don't know what music or song you should play, well I've always thought that "From the edge of the deep green sea" or "apart" by the Cure fetches the mood of lost love perfect.
It almost makes me cry while I didn't broke up with my girlfriend. Moving.
QuoteIt almost makes me cry while I didn't broke up with my girlfriend. Moving.
Just for a second I thought you were going to say "It's almost a shame I didn't break up with my girlfriend". ;)
Ouch!
Nah, that was just a lousy joke.
But still: Ouch. Fuck.
No Prob man.
A lousy joke once and a while is appreciated over here.
I know how you feel, O, cuz exactly the same sort of thing happened to me just before christmas, and i also know that it doesn't really matter what anyone else says cuz you're still gonna feel a bit shit. But eventually you'll start seeing other people and you'll wonder what you ever saw in her in the first place.
QuoteI also felt that we couldn't really speak in an adult way, so maybe it was all for the best... But then again, if we had worked on that, I think we could have made it. And now I wanna talk to her, but she doesn't want to. So it's acceptance on one hand, frustration on the other. And I still have my breakdowns. But you know... People caring, asking me how I am, stuff like that, it helps a lot.
Oh, if I start to sound like a teenager, tell me. She was my first love and all, so it's really a bit childish. Anyway. Thanks for asking.
Hoo boy O--I remember the first one to this day and I definitely relate to not being able to speak in an adult way together. I still believe if there wasn't such an a-hole factor in me back then I would have married that beautiful person who I lost some time ago. The first loss is definitely the most crushing and painful. I feel for you. Try to take some solace in the fact that anything can happen in this life--you may someone even better....
Update me O.
How goes it, pal?
Any easier?
I thought it was getting really better, until she updated her weblog yesterday and I was foolish enough to read it. Reading about how she's going on with her life, well... it sucks. But like I said, I'm painting, photographing, playing music. And I hardly ever cry about her anymore. So there's some progression. Some.
Okay, a quick update: She already has a new boyfriend. I got totally wrecked when I heard that, as you can imagine. Then again, I met a girl as well, with whom things seem to be going in the right direction. So we're both in rebound, I suppose.
That was just for those who want to stay in touch. :)
Je laat er ook geen gras over groeien O? ;)
Go all the way brother!
I have to, I'm afraid. Right now, I'm haunted by visions of her laying in bed with another guy. The only way to get rid of that, is getting someone else in my bed, too.
That almost sounds like a pervert talking?
Kidding,
I wish you all the best and remember always brush your teeth before the ...
Can't think of anything to say O, but I'm glad you kept us up to date. Lot of good feelings towards you from this forum.
weather the storm, brother...just ride it on out. soon enough the sun will poke through.
QuoteI have to, I'm afraid. Right now, I'm haunted by visions of her laying in bed with another guy. The only way to get rid of that, is getting someone else in my bed, too.
Or, you
could imagine that she's in bed with a giant turd. Or that you're in bed with several someone's at once...or imagine a future where these memories will be distant enough to laugh to yourself and say "what the FUCK was I thinking?!?"
Hang on bro. Good times are comin' your way...I'm summoning my good vibes and channelling them to you...just like everyone else has done for me here. 8)
QuoteThat almost sounds like a pervert talking?
Kidding,
I wish you all the best and remember always brush your teeth before the ...
Hehe... If only you knew, if only you knew... ;)
Now THAT was definitely a joke. A sick one, perhaps, but, err... Nevermind. ;D
Quoteimagine a future where these memories will be distant enough to laugh to yourself and say "what the FUCK was I thinking?!?"
Yeah, I know that day will come, but it's gonna take a long while, I'm afraid.
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Now THAT was definitely a joke. A sick one, perhaps, but, err... Nevermind. ;D
It might be a sick one, but you're joking! That's definately a good sign. You couldn't have imagined yourself doing that a few weeks ago. You're getting there :)
Haha.. It's stupid, but things are going pretty well, and now all of a sudden I'm considering if I should put it on this site, for privacy-reasons. I mean, I didn't give a fuck about that when I was down, and now that I'm doing better, I'm getting shy. Let's just say it appears my life is getting back on track again.
Even though I might ofcourse still have some fallbacks in the next time, I think I'll be fine. I really want to thank all you fellas for making me feel good. You will still hear from me a lot, don't be scared (or glad ;)), but I think I should bring this topic to an end. Cheers, mates.
Right on, my brother....right on.