name your favourite "fuck-you-i-hope-i-never-see-your-stupid-stupid-stupid-face-again" songs!!!
or, alternately...
the horrible, awful, sucky songs you sulk to when you get dumped.
i love adam sandler belting out "love stinks" in the Wedding Singer.
oh no....i hope you're alright...
the girl i dated for over a year would use Damien Rice emotional heroin. i highly suggest against it. that said, happy go lucky bullshit is exactly that: bullshit. but don't delve into the bottomless pits of emotinal heroin type stuff. i would highly prescribe Andrew Bird's Weather Systems album. And all of At Dawn. maybe "Turn of the Century" by Pete Yorn.
and i wrote one recently that i'll record soon that may fit the bill (no quite as strongly, but definitely a wanting-to-end-the-association type of thing)
I know it's a cliche, but I don't think you can beat Gloria Gaynor's I will Survive.
good thread.
Bob Dylan has a ton of great "anti-love songs", so to speak. Two of the best are "Don't Think Twice It's Alright" and "Most Likely You'll Go Your Way (I'll Go Mine)" "You know you told me / That you want to hold me / but you know you're not that strong.
Also, "Song for the Dumped" by Ben Folds. "So you wanted to take a break / Slow it down some and have some space ? Well, fuck you too!"
Looks Like Rain....Grateful Dead.
Beck's Sea Change is a great break-up record, the entire thing!! And as someone suggested, Dylan is great, especially Blood on the Tracks.
Also as a woman, I would play Aretha a lot, just blast it, dance, sing and get it out!! :)
"You're no good, heartbreaker, you're a liar and you're a cheat...and I don't know whyyyyy, you do these things to me..."
Good luck.
"Understand YOur Man" by Johnny Cash
It is THe Ultimate.
QuoteBeck's Sea Change is a great break-up record, the entire thing!! And as someone suggested, Dylan is great, especially Blood on the Tracks.
I was definitely going to say "Golden Age" by back. I wallowed to that last fall during a particularly nasty one...
QuoteBeck's Sea Change is a great break-up record, the entire thing!! And as someone suggested, Dylan is great, especially Blood on the Tracks.
Good call! Another good breakup album is "Comes a Time" by Neil Young
dylan's "love sick" just kills me...
and "say hello, wave good-bye" by david gray
"sea change" is a break-up record. it hurts to listen to it, you can totally feel the anguish.
Quote"say hello, wave good-bye" by david gray
I love this song, the lyrics are perfect for this thread. White Ladder is a good break up album, This Years Love is another track that comes to mind.
You do know Say Hello... was originally written & recorded by Marc Almond of Soft Cell? :)
when i try to think of certain albums or songs, it's all blank, but i usually go with a certain mood of music rather than specifc lyrics. THE MOON AND ANTARCTICA by modest mouse has quite a few 'fuck you' songs on it, and i think it's a great listen, no matter what mood you're in.
i love the lyric..."it took a lot of work to be the ass i am, but i'm really damn sure that anyone can equally easily fuck ya over."
oh yeah ween's 12 COUNTRY GREATS has the song piss up a rope. that's a great one, too.
songs ohia always work for a somber mood, i've found.
I'll have to agree with Ben Folds "Song for the Dumped".
It's perfection.
ahhh..."Translation" from the Songs:Ohia section of the sSplit EP is perfect.
that mood. gosh. there was a time when i could not stop listening to that song.
"there is nothing liable like change"
How about Ugly Kid Joe's I hate everything about you. What a brilliant song that was. ;)
rats, Moon and Antartica is one of my alltime favorites!
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rats, Moon and Antartica is one of my alltime favorites!
yeah definitely! i think it just edges out THE LONESOME CROWDED WEST for my favourite modest mouse album.
agreed. and i would put building nothing out of something 3rd even though I guess it's a compilation and not an "album"
Cat Stevens: Last Love Song
BEST SONG EVER. It's a delight.
if you don't love me
please don't treat me this way
cause i can't stand it
i see our love slipping away
did you think you could just! put! me! down!
like a worn out shoe
cause if you don't want me
maybe i don't want you
Ohhhh, I love the way he sings this.
It amuses me so.
Positively 4th Street
You got a lotta nerve
To say you are my friend
When I was down
You just stood there grinning
then, at the end:
I wish that for just one time
You could stand inside my shoes
And just for that one moment
I could be you
Yes, I wish that for just one time
You could stand inside my shoes
You'd know what a drag it is
To see you
ouch!!
kind of an aside...
one time a dude and i broke up and he was giving me the old "i'm no good for you anyway" bullshit, "i'm just a rambler and i can't make ties and i like to be free." you ladies have heard this before, i'm sure. ;) and probably you fellas, as well.
anyhow, i didn't actually care too much, which caused some tension (i think i was supposed to be devastated or something) so i go to a show that he's playing. he sees me walk in, stops the song he's playing, and starts SCREAMING the words to "it aint me, babe" directly to me.
what can one do in that situation? laugh. laugh and look around and shrug your shoulders at the gaping-mouthed audience. ;)
yep.
so that, i think, constitutes as a breakup song. :)
The supposedly heartbroken becomes the heartbreaker!!! You go girlfriend!
How gorgeous/cool/beautiful are you EC?!!
*sighs deeply thinking of those curls...*
mister, you just made my morning. :)
what're you doin' later... ;) maybe i could swing by japan for some green tea, karaoke and haiku.
with your wife, of course. :D
Stay there, I'm coming to Toronto! I need to work on my 'eating entire pints of ice cream' skills ;)
hahaha, the hell? has our entire board become twitterpaited?
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;)
sidenote (again):
this morning one of my dance ladies phoned and said she was a bit distracted because she'd found a newborn animal and didn't know what it was, but it had been abandoned and would surely die. it's eyes were closed. wee enough to fit in a hand.
it was a squirrel in the end, an most sadly, abandoned newborn squirrels are incapable of surviving without a mama.
rip little one.
twitterpaited reminded me of that story.
bambi is sad, though. man alive.
RollingStone put together their own list:
http://www.rollingstone.com/rockdaily/index.php/2006/08/02/list-of-the-day-best-breakup-songs/
how could i have forgotten "divorce song"?
That song is depressing as hell
I would like to share this list
Another Lonely Day - Ben Harper
I wish I never saw the sunshine - beth orton
last goodbye - jeff buckley
Cry on Demand - Ryan Adams
So Cruel - u2
Bob Mould's got some classic ones
Next Time That You Leave
The next time that you leave
I'll throw out everything you own
so you'll have no reason,
no reason to return
The next time that you leave
I'll burn out my memories,
I don't need reminders,
remind me to forget
You are not a master
maybe you have mastered
different games that worked with others
but I am not the others,
You are just a bastard...
Can't Help You Anymore Sugar
I can't help you anymore
You can't hurt me anymore
Don't care how bad I feel
Still holding on the wheel
I've felt like this before
Been sleeping on the floor
You say you've had enough
Don't try to wake me up
I can't help you anymore
You can't hurt me anymore
Don't care if you're upset
I'm trying to forget
I feel like walking out
Don't want to talk it out
You say your life's a mess
I need to get some rest
I've had enough of feeling slighted
I've had enough to last a lifetime
I've had enough, and I've decided
I can't help you anymore
You can't hurt me anymore
Changes Sugar
I want something like I remember
And I want something
That lasts forever
I remember times you said
That you'd be true to me
Look at how the weather's changing
I'm accustomed to your deception
Comes the rule with no exception
And I've been dragged across the river
Running far and wide
Come and see how I feel inside
Change for the better
Change for the worse
Changes with summer and fall
Now you're a stranger
Spare me some change
So I can find someone to call my own
Now that winter has fallen upon us
I need something that's warm and honest
And if I found someone who thinks
That they'll be true to me
I really wouldn't want to change it
If I Can't Change Your Mind Sugar
Tears fill up my eyes
I'm washed away with sorrow
And somewhere in my mind
I know there's no tomorrow
I see you're leaving soon
I guess you've had your fill
But if I can't change your mind
Then no one will
And all throughout the years
I've never strayed from you my dear
But you suspect I'm somewhere else
You're feeling sorry for yourself
Leaving with a broken heart
I love you even still
But if I can't change your mind
Then no one will
Even though my heart keeps breaking
Don't you know that I'll be waiting
Here for you
Then when you return
When will you return
I hope you see I'm dedicated
Look how long that I have waited
If you come back then you will find
A different person
If you change your mind
How can I explain away
Something that I haven't done
And if you can't trust me now
You'll never trust in anyone
With all the crazy doubts you've got
I love you even still
But if I can't change your mind
Then no one will
Someday you'll see I've been true
I'll stay that way until
But if I can't change your mind
Then no one will
(I'm a big Bob Mould fan!)
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wow a bob mould fan, i totally agree with you about sugar break up songs. I suppose anything from black sheets of rain would work.
Stars: Your Ex-Lover Is Dead
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a2yJSFHTrgM
the wedding present - watuzi
Sinead O'Connor - The Last Day Of Our Acquaintance
The Stooges - Your Pretty Face Is Going To Hell
Paul Simon - 50 ways to leave your lover
You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free
Ooh ooh, here's another great one:
Will Johnson's "Just Some Silence". I couldn't find the lyrics, but there great. It's from the 'vultures await' album, which is one of the best breakup records ever!
And Damien Jurado's Ohio makes me extremely sad every time I hear it...
I'm still sticking with "It's Alright" by Dylan, someone mentioned it earlier.
As for feeling sad and lonely feeling there is "Tattoo" by Joseph Arthur, that one makes me cry every f'ing time.
This song makes me think of a wonderful Czech girl I dated:
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KwNf_9SROqY
I always thought that (Dylan's) Idiot Wind was a particularly venomous break-up song...
"Idiot wind blowing every time your move your mouth
Blowing down the backroads heading south
Idiot wind blowing every time you move your teeth
You're an idiot babe
It's a wonder that you still know how to breathe..."
"You hurt the ones that I love best and cover up the truth with lies
One day you'll be in the ditch, flies buzzing around your eyes"
I once burned a CD with 15 versions of Dylan's "Don't Think Twice, It's Alright" on it and mailed it to an ex. In retrospect, he wasn't worth the postage.
Oh, and The Knack's "Can't Put A Price On Love" is pretty sweet, too.
QuoteI once burned a CD with 15 versions of Dylan's "Don't Think Twice, It's Alright" on it and mailed it to an ex. In retrospect, he wasn't worth the postage.
Do you have Steve Young's version?!!
I put nothing but this song back-to-back on both sides of a 90minute cassette ;D :-[
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ShN8UIk5-mw
I didn't re-read this whole thread, but no breakup music thread is complete without the following:
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Baby, baby, baby biiiiiitch
Fuck you, you stinkin ass 'ho
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Wilco - Glad It's Over
That's all i've listened to for the past year!! I never saw this thread! I've pretty much cornered the market on breakup music.
For the last month, it's been Lucinda Williams' new album---about half of the album makes me cry; a lot of wilco's sky blue sky is pretty grim (even though supposedly he wrote it as a gift to his wife lol) Try The Originals album and a GREAT breakup album---Spiritualized "ladies and gentlemen" (pretty much anything from spiritualized)
QuoteThat's all i've listened to for the past year!! I never saw this thread! I've pretty much cornered the market on breakup music.
For the last month, it's been Lucinda Williams' new album---about half of the album makes me cry; a lot of wilco's sky blue sky is pretty grim (even though supposedly he wrote it as a gift to his wife lol) Try The Originals album and a GREAT breakup album---Spiritualized "ladies and gentlemen" (pretty much anything from spiritualized)
If that was Tweedy's album for his wife, that's sad. I mean the song I posted was a b-side off that album that made it to the Heroes soundtrack. It has the goddamn line "I hate you 100% I mean that kindly" and "I want you out of my life until my life ends"
To be clear...is this thread for the heart breaker or the heart breakee?
QuoteLucinda Williams' new album
"If Wishes Were Horses"...
knife. through. heart. I had a period of about two years where I couldn't listen to Lucinda at all. The new album had me thinking I might have to revisit that abstinence, but all's well thus far!
QuoteQuoteThat's all i've listened to for the past year!! I never saw this thread! I've pretty much cornered the market on breakup music.
For the last month, it's been Lucinda Williams' new album---about half of the album makes me cry; a lot of wilco's sky blue sky is pretty grim (even though supposedly he wrote it as a gift to his wife lol) Try The Originals album and a GREAT breakup album---Spiritualized "ladies and gentlemen" (pretty much anything from spiritualized)
If that was Tweedy's album for his wife, that's sad. I mean the song I posted was a b-side off that album that made it to the Heroes soundtrack. It has the goddamn line "I hate you 100% I mean that kindly" and "I want you out of my life until my life ends"
well he said on the documentary that he wrote it for his wife, but took it more to mean that he wrote really pretty melodies more than the lyrics were directed at her. maybe he meant those lyrics towards jay bennett (lol)
QuoteQuoteLucinda Williams' new album
"If Wishes Were Horses"...knife. through. heart. I had a period of about two years where I couldn't listen to Lucinda at all. The new album had me thinking I might have to revisit that abstinence, but all's well thus far!
it is the first lucinda album i've ever heard (yes, i know-i'm late in the game) i am definitely going to keep discovering her. if wishes were horses and the knowing are so haunting. it does feel like someone is stabbing you...
i think break ups effect the heartbreakER as much as the breakEE so i think it's a thread for both :-)
She's one of my favorites...check these out, for sure:
Car Wheels On A Gravel Road
Essence
World Without Tears
I'm still warming up to West, but I also love Live at the Fillmore.
Live at the Fillmore is about ten kinds of greatness. I've loved Lucinda for a long time now, and that record gave me a completely new appreciation for her.
I'm rarely a heartbreaker or a heartbreakee, but I do love some sad bastard music. Recommended tracks:
Bettye LaVette - Just Say So
Neko Case - In California
Wilco - Reservations
Blitzen Trapper - Not Your Lover
When you start feeling better, listen to Candi Staton's self-titled disc on repeat :)
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When you start feeling better, listen to Candi Staton's self-titled disc on repeat :)
8-)
Also a nice lyric:
And we won't understand your grief
Because time is illusion
As this watery world spins around
This timeless sun
Will dry your eyes
And calm your mind Marillion - Estonia
And of course the whole of No Other by Gene Clark is some heavy stuff to listen to while in some emotional turmoil.
Pretty much anything from Depech Mode's Violator (except Personal Jesus).
Dated a girl who loved that album (with good reason) and ummm liked to ummm, yeah that, to it. Everytime I listen I have to sigh. Used to listen to it after we split and it made me sad. ahhh college.
Blur-No distance left to run
Its over
You dont need to tell me
I hope youre with someone who makes you
Feel safe in your sleeping tonight
I wont kill myself, trying to stay in your life
I got no distance left to run
When you see me
Please turn your back and walk away
I dont want to see you
Cos I know the dreams that you keep is wearing me
When your coming down, think of me here
I got no distance left to run
Its over, I knew it would end this way
I hope youre with someone who makes you feel
That this life is the night
And it settles down, stays around
Spends more time with you
I got no distance left to run
QuoteBlur-No distance left to run
Its over
You dont need to tell me
I hope youre with someone who makes you
Feel safe in your sleeping tonight
I wont kill myself, trying to stay in your life
I got no distance left to run
When you see me
Please turn your back and walk away
I dont want to see you
Cos I know the dreams that you keep is wearing me
When your coming down, think of me here
I got no distance left to run
Its over, I knew it would end this way
I hope youre with someone who makes you feel
That this life is the night
And it settles down, stays around
Spends more time with you
I got no distance left to run
That's basically how I felt a couple weeks ago. It's so hard to resist attempting to make things right again. :(
QuoteQuoteQuoteThat's all i've listened to for the past year!! I never saw this thread! I've pretty much cornered the market on breakup music.
For the last month, it's been Lucinda Williams' new album---about half of the album makes me cry; a lot of wilco's sky blue sky is pretty grim (even though supposedly he wrote it as a gift to his wife lol) Try The Originals album and a GREAT breakup album---Spiritualized "ladies and gentlemen" (pretty much anything from spiritualized)
If that was Tweedy's album for his wife, that's sad. I mean the song I posted was a b-side off that album that made it to the Heroes soundtrack. It has the goddamn line "I hate you 100% I mean that kindly" and "I want you out of my life until my life ends"
well he said on the documentary that he wrote it for his wife, but took it more to mean that he wrote really pretty melodies more than the lyrics were directed at her. maybe he meant those lyrics towards jay bennett (lol)
there's a documentary on sky blue sky? where have i been? I just love that album because of how it was recorded. however, i digress. time to hit the ol' googles.
On topic: I feel a duty to add the following:
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Dismemberment Plan - What do You Want me to Say?
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Dismemberment Plan - Come Home
I'd link to some Jets to Brazil, but I don't want to turn the thread emo
The National~Beautiful Head
You're walking taller than you should
The air is thin around your beautiful head
You're saying things with your mouth to me
That I don't recognize
You're aware of yourself lately
Redefining yourself
Designing yourself
You haven't looked at me forever
Got a diagram of your associations
A strategy
You're weighing your options
What would you trade me for?
You're measuring me lately
And I can tell
And I can tell I'm losing weight
You're measuring me lately
You're dressing me
Do not tell me I've changed
You're just raising your standards
Do not give me away
I am the same
I am the same
Have you found him?
Have you told him everything?
Does he say he feels bad about all this?
You've shown tenderness for me
Tenderness for me
To him
Do not tell me I've changed
You're just raising your standards
Do not give me away
I am the same
I am the same
Bright Eyes - Haligh, Haligh, A Lie, Haligh
The phone slips from a loose grip
Words were missed then some apology
I didn't want to tell you this
No it's just some guys
She's been hanging out with
Oh I don't know
The past couple of weeks I guess
Thank you and hang up the phone
Let the funeral start
Hear the casket close, let's pin
Split-black ribbon to your overcoat
Well laughter pours from under doors
In this house, I don't
Understand that sound no more
It seems artificial like a T.V. set
Haligh, Haligh, Haligh, Haligh
This weight it must be satisfied
You offer only one reply
You know not what you do
But you tear and tear your hair from roots
From that same head you've twice removed
A lock of hair you said would prove
Our love would never die
Well, ha ha ha!
But I remember everything
The words we spoke on freezing South Street
And all those mornings watching you
Get ready for school
You combed your hair inside that mirror
The one you painted blue and glued with jewelry tears
Something about those bright colors
Will always made you feel better
But now we speak with ruined tongues
And the words we say
Aren't meant for anyone
It's just a mumbled sentence to
A passing acquaintance
But there was once you..
You said you hate my suffering
And you understood
And you'd take care of me
You would always be there
Well where are you now?
Haligh, Haligh, Haligh, Haligh
The plans were never finalized
But left to hang like yarn and twine
Dangling before my eyes
As you tear and tear your hair from roots
That same head you have twice removed
A lock of hair you said would prove
Our love would never die
As I sing and sing of awful things
The pleasure that my sadness brings
And my fingers press onto the strings
You get another clumsy chord
Haligh, Haligh, an awful lie
This weight will now be satisfied
I wanna give you only one reply
I know not who I am
But I talk in the mirror
To the stranger that appears
Our conversations are circles
And always one sided
Nothing is clear
Except we keep coming back
To this meaning that I lack
He says the choices were given
And now we must live them
Or just not live...
But do you want that?
Jeff Buckley - Last Goodbye
This is our last goodbye
I hate to feel the love between us die
But it's over
Just hear this and then i'll go
You gave me more to live for
More than you'll ever know
This is our last embrace
Must I dream and always see your face
Why can't we overcome this wall
Well, maybe it's just because i didn't know you at all
Kiss me, please kiss me
But kiss me out of desire, babe, and not consolation
You know it makes me so angry 'cause i know that in time
I'll only make you cry, this is our last goodbye
Did you say "no, this can't happen to me,"
And did you rush to the phone to call
Was there a voice unkind in the back of your mind
Saying maybe you didn't know him at all
You didn't know him at all, oh, you didn't know
Well, the bells out in the church tower chime
Burning clues into this heart of mine
Thinking so hard on her soft eyes and the memories
Offer signs that it's over... it's over
Pretty much all of William Fitzsimmons' The Sparrow and the Crow works, too.
This is for IHL's question in another thread - about a specific song or album that reminds them of a past relationship...
Bryan Adams - (Everything I Do) I Do It for You
I vomited just typing that. I couldn't even leave the house in 1991 when that abomination was loosed upon the earth and my girlfriend creamed herself for it, as well as the frat boy she dumped me for.
I don't even want to think about starting to tell the story behind this one; hell, make up your own story and you are probably pretty close to what actually happened.
Hold on Loosely" by .38 Special
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QuoteThis is for IHL's question in another thread - about a specific song or album that reminds them of a past relationship...
Bryan Adams - (Everything I Do) I Do It for You
I vomited just typing that. I couldn't even leave the house in 1991 when that abomination was loosed upon the earth and my girlfriend creamed herself for it, as well as the frat boy she dumped me for.
;D ;D ;D
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Lets see, first there is the shock of the breakup, then the sadness, then the pain, then the f'n anger kicks in. These 2 were there the last bad breakup I had before I meet my wife.
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I had a girl in the seventh grade that every time I heard Shai's "If I ever fall in Love" I got sad. That was when I was a little lad with nothing better to do in life. You can always throw in "End of the Road" by Boys to Men. I remember that song from middle school mixers, and watching people be sad because they couldn't slow dance with anyone.