I've got three kids. They are 19, 17 and 12 (yes, I'm very old but that doesn't stop me rocking :D) The oldest has his own flat but still relies on me, and not just for money. I often get phone calls like "Do I really need insurance for my motor bike?", "Can you cook a chicken in the deep fat fryer?" and "My toilet's blocked, can I clear it with the vacuum cleaner?". The younger two are away at camp this week. I've got a lot done in the house, decorating and stuff, but now I'm missing them like hell. Got a call last night to say the youngest had been hit by another kid. The other kid was sent home and Ed was fine but they wanted to warn me there'd be a mark on his forehead. I was getting my car keys as she spoke but she put Ed on and he said he was fine and didn't need to come home early. I'm picking them up on Saturday but I can't stop thinking what a bad mother I am for sending them away, then telling myself not to be daft and they're having a great time. My daughter's loving it. She's completely fearless and trusting and always willing to abseil down a cliff or whatever without a care.
What I want to say is, it never stops, does it? You never switch off the loving, protecting, fearing for them thing. They're completely worth it but that 'fist round your heart' thing can happen at any moment.
I know some of you are parents, do you know what I mean?
im there with ya, my kids are young young young, too. my son will be 4 august 19, and my daughter will be 3 in november, day after my birthday. (don't fuck with a 2 scorpio family, bitches!) i know ive done many stupid things, and i always feel bad about going to shows or my time away, but its all good as ive seen how much they need time away from us parents as well. my wife has been a stay at home parent for their entire lives, and ive had the luxury of working at home for almost two years now, so its almost worse to try to leave them being around them so much, but then again you ache for free time together. all you with older kids, tell me all i have to look forward to, all the worrying and such! hehe
couldnt be parenting be called the justified insanity club?
I'm not a parent, dith, but my Mom STILL puts her hand out to stop me from crashing into the windshield if she has to stop a little faster than she normally would in the car. We still get Santa presents, and there's always chocolate hidden at Easter. Every time I go to visit, I always leave with a new toothbrush, toilet paper and paper towels, and whatever food she just so "happened" to have "lying around the house" that she "never uses", but certainly wasn't there a couple of weeks previous, and just so happens to be my favourite stuff. We're fairly close, and so she knows most things, and if something hard happens, I usually don't want to tell her at first, because she'll take it worse than me. And she WORRIES. Jesus.
Okay, if I'm staying there over Christmas, and I go out, I have to say goodnight when I get home because she can't sleep otherwise. Or, when I leave her house, I always have to call so she knows I got home okay (these things are true for my brother, as well). She calls my brother and I and makes sure that neither of us are lying to her if we say that things are all right.
I hope I'm not making her sound crazy. It's actually kind of nice to have a house full of balloons and streamers on your 31st birthday. She's just really lovely, but she's not forceful about it.
Oh yeah, another thing. I'm not allowed to go anywhere NEAR a balcony if she's around. And I mean it. She still thinks I'm going to somehow get picked up by the wind and fall over the edge. That part drives me a little crazy, actually. Actually, I go near balcony ledges on purpose.
Which is bad and wrong.
Moms. :)
Quotemy Mom STILL puts her hand out to stop me from crashing into the windshield if she has to stop a little faster than she normally would in the car. :)
I do that! Moms. :)
Quoteall you with older kids, tell me all i have to look forward to, all the worrying and such! hehe
I don't think it ever stops. My mother worried about my until the day she died. Her love was like a warm blanket on a cold day.
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couldnt be parenting be called the justified insanity club?
Definately ;D
I can tell you that it's the most insane and wonderful thing, ever. Amelia is only 5 months old, but she's starting to become aware of everything and it's like having another person around, instead of that fluid-expulsing larva she was a short month ago...
all she ever does is smile and laugh.
And I guess Chris gives a different but similar set of experiences. Kids are cool (and pains in the butt at the same time :-/)
Quotefluid-expulsing larva
What a beautiful description for your daughter! :D
It reminds me of the carnage that Jen and I created when we maliciously destroyed an entire colony of hornets. There were a lot of hornet babies (ie larvae).
Wait a minute. No. Amelia is not like that at all. She's stunning and beautiful and has a very awesome Dad to boot!
I think parents are supposed to worry about their kids forever. And then kids start worrying about their parents. And then everybody's just damn worrying all the time from the love.
(I thought this thread was going to be about that awesome movie.)
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(I thought this thread was going to be about that awesome movie.)
Oh yeah. It was pretty funny. And it had some truly recognisable moments.
being a dad ++
i recommend it to everyone. and it's easy. hell, i wasn't even *trying*.
QuoteWait a minute. No. Amelia is not like that at all. She's stunning and beautiful and has a very awesome Dad to boot!
::) well, i'm blushing!
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::) well, i'm blushing!
Good! :)
My Mom just phoned. She always calls every time I have a show, to say that she's thinking about me and to say have a good show. And then she makes me promise that I'll call her the next day to tell her about it.
So I told her that it was really nice, and I told her that I really appreciate how she's always doing that.
And it made her really happy. :)
i love moms. i'm not a mom myself, but i have a good mom. i also have a nephew, who is the best kid ever.
(http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v54/timeisanocean/guitar1.jpg)
he's in the song writing zone, right now. very pensive.
What a cool picture with a beautiful little man.
Quote Every time I go to visit, I always leave with a new toothbrush, toilet paper and paper towels, and whatever food she just so "happened" to have "lying around the house" that she "never uses", but certainly wasn't there a couple of weeks previous, and just so happens to be my favourite stuff.
And she WORRIES. Jesus.
Same thing here EC. My parents came up to see my new kitten(their grandcats) and I had food left in my frig. Tuesday night/Wednesday morning, I had to work a 20 hour shift at work, so I called to let them know that I was not at home. My mom said that 20 hours was too long to work and drive home, so she and Dad were coming to get me. I had to actually promise to take a nap before driving home. But my parents are gold and I would not/could not trade them for the world. That's why when I hear young folks say "my mom is such a bitch", I cringe and then get mad, then want to cry because they were not as lucky as me.
Parents Rock!!!
Oh yeah, my first concert was Blood, Sweat & Tears....with my Dad.
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Parents Rock!!!
So glad to see you say that Jonjon. I don't think I really understood how much mine meant to me until they were gone. I miss them every day. If I can do half as good a job as them I'll be happy.
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Oh yeah, my first concert was Blood, Sweat & Tears....with my Dad.
What a cool dad!
The fact that you care enough and express yourself the way you have proves that you not only care for your little peeps, but the love goes so deep that you hurt when they hurt...or even when they are not. That's what it takes to be a wonderful mommy.
Keep up the great job and sharing of much love. It will be reflected in them for the rest of their lives.
not "technically" a parent yet but i lost my oldest brother a little more than a year ago in a car accident and i feel it's been my duty to help raise his little son as best as possible for him. he's definitely one of the best things in all of our lives these days and he's growing up too fast.
Jonjon, How lovely of you to say that. I'm missing them a lot tonight (my kids, I mean, but it also applied to my parents).
They'll be driving me nuts in two days' time. I'm looking forward to it ;)
And darkglow, so sorry about your loss. Good for you for being a good uncle. Uncles are fun!
Just 'calls' it like I 'sees' it nice lady. I have cooking directions written down too. Got a lasagna recipe that uses ground turkey with the spinich. Suppose to be healthy and all that. Thanks to mommies, we kids get to eat good too.
Quotenot "technically" a parent yet but i lost my oldest brother a little more than a year ago in a car accident and i feel it's been my duty to help raise his little son as best as possible for him. he's definitely one of the best things in all of our lives these days and he's growing up too fast.
To be a part and influence of the growing process is excellent. Not to mention, you are lining up good karhma for taking the time to raise a young one. It's kewl to see that both you and your nephew will grow from the terrible tragedy. I'm really sorry for your loss as well.
I'm really sorry, too, darkglow. I didn't know that. Good work on taking the reins, though. :)
jonjon, your post reminded me of when I called my Mom a bitch in grade eight because I was having a sleepover party, and we snuck boys in, and she found out and made them leave. And I called her a bitch, and I still to this DAY cannot BELIEVE I said that.
I once got pissed and shoved my mom, she lost her balance and fell to the ground. Talk about really bad guilt. How was I to know she was protecting me from bad rednecks by not allowing me to take a girl of a different race out on a date. Young and stupid. I still feel bad to this day about that incident too EC. Of course, Dad came home and said I got physical with his wife(notice he didn't say my mother). Let's just say it wasn't pretty and I never ever never did that again. We live, we learn, we do stupid shit that we will never ever do again.
QuoteGot a lasagna recipe that uses ground turkey with the spinich. Suppose to be healthy and all that. Thanks to mommies, we kids get to eat good too.
Mmmmm.... turkey and spinach, that
is healthy. Thanks for the tip :D
QuoteWhat a cool picture with a beautiful little man.
he's the best...if he really does turn out to be a songwriter, i'm showing the proof this picture holds. start 'em early!
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he's the best...if he really does turn out to be a songwriter, i'm showing the proof this picture holds. start 'em early!
He's beauts, whothrewthecake. Part of me really wants my brother to have a baby so that I can be an Aunt. And part of me really doesn't want him to have babies. ;)
Do you know that I didn't know where your name came from until yesterday when I clicked a wrong thing and found myself in the lyrics section?
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He's beauts, whothrewthecake. Part of me really wants my brother to have a baby so that I can be an Aunt. And part of me really doesn't want him to have babies. ;)
being an aunt is tops! i'm sure you will LOVE it, and i think you will be a really super aunt.
QuoteDo you know that I didn't know where your name came from until yesterday when I clicked a wrong thing and found myself in the lyrics section?
right on, sistah! HOW DO YOU KNOW!
I see that little EP all the time, and I keep meaning to get it. Maybe today on my way home from work...
i have a show from 5/28/04 in toronto and they sing it there. i love the way jim sings, who threw the cake....so i went with it. EC, were you at this show?
Quotei have a show from 5/28/04 in toronto and they sing it there. i love the way jim sings, who threw the cake....so i went with it. EC, were you at this show?
Nope. I have yet to see them in Toronto. I know a bunch of people who were at that show, though.
I even know some people who were at the very special, exciting solo event held at Soundscapes, my favourite record store. Actually, some of the guys who work there still talk about it. :) Apparently it was really, really, really special.
Oh man, I think this sort of turned into a Moms thread, but i don't mind it.
My mom is awesome, even though I don't let her know it enough by actually telling her. But I've had so much fun ever since I realized how cool she really is. I was a dick up until sophomore year, when I finally realized she divorced my Dad (back when I was five) with good reason, and had nothing but pure love and prayers for me. So I started listening to her and getting to know her for being my mom and started to reallya ppreciate how much she reallyd oes care for me. Every time I start to come up with a song (or better yet, finish one) I'll bring my guitar downstairs and play it for her and twice she's told me that just teh music has made her think of the same thing I was thinking writing it (which royally rocks). The fact that she's trusted me so much to make my own decisions, and doesn't rule over my life, and even now, as I've been dating this wonderful girl for a good while, just seeing the two of them start to really get comfortable around eachother, I've become so thanful for how awesome she is, and how lucky I am.
Gosh. It's funy that it took me so long to get into this thread, because my biggest goal in my life (and yes, I'm only seventeen) is to have a good family. I don't care about money (dont do a thang for meeee) or any of that, I just feel like if my family comes first (well, after whatever work I need to be doing for the Lord) then that is what really matters. It's one of the biggest sacrifices and most beautiful things that can happen to you, and I'm completely looking forward to one day being a dad.It's weird, because I think I forget a little about how hard it will be, but I'm determined and I think it will be one of the most fulfilling journeys a man could endeavor.