Hey Everyone

[ms. yvon]

andrew, i just read through your whole thread.  what a crazy, tough time for you.  it's one thing to make big changes in your life, and quite another to have your life changed.

damn.  i really hope things work out well for you!

xo, ms. y

[MarkW]

Sorry to read about your tough time, DB.  If you make it to the UK, however briefly, make sure you schedule some time for beers in this neck of the woods.  There's a bed, food, and unlimited pints available.  I mean, you can't only visit Norwich.  ;)

Things will work themselves out with time.  Just keep a true heart and an even balance in your actions.

Peace

M

[dragonboy]

Thanks very much Ms. Yvon & Mark  :)

I'm still in Spain at the moment. There is a chance I may see my wife sometime in October. We're talking a lot & things are slowly getting better but I fear there may be 'too much water under the bridge'

I'm a lot happier/stronger than I was a month or so ago so that's good, purely from a selfish point of view.

[TEO]

There is nothing selfish about your viewpoint. You need to think of yourself at this time...

[mjkoehler]

Sometimes you have to look out for #1, but try not stepping into #2.

[Penny Lane]

Sometimes you have to look out for #1, but try not stepping into #2.

i love that movie. professor turgeson

[mjkoehler]

Sometimes you have to look out for #1, but try not stepping into #2.

i love that movie. professor turgeson

If we cannot learn about life from the late, great Rodney and Sam, there is no hope.

[Penny Lane]

Sometimes you have to look out for #1, but try not stepping into #2.

i love that movie. professor turgeson

If we cannot learn about life from the late, great Rodney and Sam, there is no hope.

well...didn't know you wanted to get involved in the discussion, mr helper!? okay, i'll stop.

[goodjam2bn]

What bands do they like in Japan?  

[dragonboy]

What bands do they like in Japan?  

Mostly rubbish ones! Just kidding  ;)  

The usual bands are popular - U2, Coldplay, Oasis, Radiohead, Chili Peppers etc.

Arctic Monkeys are big, Sigur Ros, Mogwai, Yo La Tengo come over a lot, KOL etc.

Japanese like their punk - Rancid, Green Day & Offspring come over a lot of always seem to sell out.

Metal is popular...Metalica, Iron Maiden etc

They're big on RnB & Soul and Japan has some very serious Hip-Hop-heads.

Unfortunately J-Pop is huge.

It's not all bad though...

[media]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EDBdMnkcx0E[/media]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EDBdMnkcx0E

[Hawkeye]

Wishing you well DB...I was in a similar situation earlier this year and it HURT.  It hurt for probably 4-5 months.  And I had only been dating this girl for a year, I wasn't married to her, though I had hopes and dreams of marrying her.  All I can say is that no matter what, things do get better.  I still think of this girl every single day, and as someone said on here, she does have a part of my heart still, but I need to keep the rest for myself and for someone else who really wants it and knows what they are getting.  Anyway, I'm way excited that you're getting a second chance.  Hopefully you will be able to put things in perspective and focus on the love you two have rather than all the weird feelings and vibes and anger and confusion that I'm sure have been going on.  I was not able to do that when it really counted, and I think, ultimately, led to us breaking up rather than staying together...I just couldn't let the anger go soon enough.  When I did, she had already found someone else, although it sounds like she was looking anyway.  My advice, when you see your wife again, Keep it positive.  Best of luck to you good sir.

[aMillionDreams]

What are the punk shows like in Japan?  I've heard Japanese audiences are reverent. Is that true for punk shows?  Or are they moshing and crowd-surfing like everyone else?

[dragonboy]

What are the punk shows like in Japan?  I've heard Japanese audiences are reverent. Is that true for punk shows?  Or are they moshing and crowd-surfing like everyone else?

The only punk show I've been to in Japan was a local band in a tiny little hole-in-the-wall venue. The crowd went mental!
Most Japanese are indeed reserved but the fanatics are indeed fanatical; whether it be the manga junkies or vinyl junkies, the hip-hop heads, the rockabillies who spend every sunday dancing in the park to old records or the emo/goths who dress in outfits that have to be seen to be believed.

[dragonboy]

Wishing you well DB...I was in a similar situation earlier this year and it HURT.  It hurt for probably 4-5 months.  And I had only been dating this girl for a year, I wasn't married to her, though I had hopes and dreams of marrying her.  All I can say is that no matter what, things do get better.  I still think of this girl every single day, and as someone said on here, she does have a part of my heart still, but I need to keep the rest for myself and for someone else who really wants it and knows what they are getting.  Anyway, I'm way excited that you're getting a second chance.  Hopefully you will be able to put things in perspective and focus on the love you two have rather than all the weird feelings and vibes and anger and confusion that I'm sure have been going on.  I was not able to do that when it really counted, and I think, ultimately, led to us breaking up rather than staying together...I just couldn't let the anger go soon enough.  When I did, she had already found someone else, although it sounds like she was looking anyway.  My advice, when you see your wife again, Keep it positive.  Best of luck to you good sir.

Thank you Hawkeye.

I really appreciate your comments & love what you wrote, particularly the line I highlighted. Sounds like you're one of the good guys out there...all the best to you in the future & I hope you find that special someone  :)

[mjkoehler]

What are the punk shows like in Japan?  I've heard Japanese audiences are reverent. Is that true for punk shows?  Or are they moshing and crowd-surfing like everyone else?

The only punk show I've been to in Japan was a local band in a tiny little hole-in-the-wall venue. The crowd went mental!
Most Japanese are indeed reserved but the fanatics are indeed fanatical; whether it be the manga junkies or vinyl junkies, the hip-hop heads, the rockabillies who spend every sunday dancing in the park to old records or the emo/goths who dress in outfits that have to be seen to be believed.

You ought to see the wrestling crowds. They looked so calm and reserved, even when crazy ass people like Terry Funky are lighting someone on fire or wrapped up in barbed wire. Every once in a while they explode and seemingly for the littliest of things.

[bowl of soup]

This thread (and especially your honesty DB) resonates with me.  It compelled me to come back here after many months away.  Good luck.

[dragonboy]

Thanks Soup, good to see you  :)

My wife is coming to Spain for a week on the 17th of October. We've been talking a lot & regardless of what may or may not happen I feel much better about everything.

I haven't seen her in over 3months, needless to say I'm extremely excited & also a little nervous.

[Jaimoe]

Best of luck DB. I've been away for 5 weeks in Europe so I'm out of the loop.

[dragonboy]

Thanks Jaimoe! Saw you online & I was just about to ask how was your trip?

Be sure to post some pics when you have time  :)

[Jaimoe]

Thanks Jaimoe! Saw you online & I was just about to ask how was your trip?

Be sure to post some pics when you have time  :)

I'll post pics for sure. I had a good time, but was the most impressed with Bavaria and Oktoberfest in Munich, Berlin, the French Alps and Strasbourg - Rome was too bloody hot and Venice and Amsterdam are oppressively overrun by tourists (the latter city felt like an overly commercialized theme park and 24-hour frat-boy bender).

I drank beer every day and tried at least 30 different brands during my five weeks and the best beer I've ever had came from Munich's Augustiner brewery, and I'm a staunch Canadian micro beer and Kronenbourg 1664 supporter.