Help me convince my gf that she wants to go to MSG...

JerseyDan · Sep 19, 2011, 01:50 AM

...being that it is on her birthday. The backstory is she likes the band, has been to 3 shows with me in the year+ we have dated but when i got the email and read it out loud from my 'droid her 1st reaction was "that MY birthday." In the moment of excitement when I read it I didn't link the two so seemed to it come off like i didn't remember it being her birthday & that she thought (however briefly) that i care more about the band then her. she was mad, but seemed to brush it off and i have not said a word since.

what's a brother to do?

Tracy 2112 · Sep 19, 2011, 01:58 AM

Quote from: JerseyDan on Sep 19, 2011, 01:50 AM
...being that it is on her birthday. The backstory is she likes the band, has been to 3 shows with me in the year+ we have dated but when i got the email and read it out loud from my 'droid her 1st reaction was "that MY birthday." In the moment of excitement when I read it I didn't link the two so seemed to it come off like i didn't remember it being her birthday & that she thought (however briefly) that i care more about the band then her. she was mad, but seemed to brush it off and i have not said a word since.

what's a brother to do?

Well, the first thing is to come clean and tell her you actually do care more about the band than her ;)

buster douglas · Sep 19, 2011, 08:58 AM

Bahaha, yeah best to be honest hahaha.

Oh life, you have a tough time competing with MMJ...

I had a professor who went to see The Who in New York the night of his anniversary. His wife left him. He seems happy now without her, but keep in mind your priorities...

Sweet Nothing · Sep 19, 2011, 09:05 AM

Quote from: Tracy 2112 on Sep 19, 2011, 01:58 AM
Quote from: JerseyDan on Sep 19, 2011, 01:50 AM
...being that it is on her birthday. The backstory is she likes the band, has been to 3 shows with me in the year+ we have dated but when i got the email and read it out loud from my 'droid her 1st reaction was "that MY birthday." In the moment of excitement when I read it I didn't link the two so seemed to it come off like i didn't remember it being her birthday & that she thought (however briefly) that i care more about the band then her. she was mad, but seemed to brush it off and i have not said a word since.

what's a brother to do?

Well, the first thing is to come clean and tell her you actually do care more about the band than her ;)

Don't think it could be said better,... just purchase the tickets one for her also and consider it part of a gift you are going to give her. Take her for a day in the city and a great MMJ show to top it off!

ericm · Sep 19, 2011, 09:32 AM

Quote from: JerseyDan on Sep 19, 2011, 01:50 AM
" In the moment of excitement when I read it I didn't link the two so seemed to it come off like i didn't remember it being her birthday & that she thought (however briefly) that i care more about the band then her. she was mad, but seemed to brush it off and i have not said a word since.

what's a brother to do?

First off you better start talking soon. Don't let that fester, and make sure she know's you knew it WAS her birthday.

I'll 2nd the spend the day in the city with her, topped off by the show at night suggestion. Maybe even start her birthday the night before with something special planned for midnight.

Good luck as it seems you might've dug yourself in kinda deep here, imo.

mahg33ta · Sep 19, 2011, 09:44 AM

Quote from: ericm on Sep 19, 2011, 09:32 AM
Quote from: JerseyDan on Sep 19, 2011, 01:50 AM
" In the moment of excitement when I read it I didn't link the two so seemed to it come off like i didn't remember it being her birthday & that she thought (however briefly) that i care more about the band then her. she was mad, but seemed to brush it off and i have not said a word since.

what's a brother to do?

First off you better start talking soon. Don't let that fester, and make sure she know's you knew it WAS her birthday.

I'll 2nd the spend the day in the city with her, topped off by the show at night suggestion. Maybe even start her birthday the night before with something special planned for midnight.

Good luck as it seems you might've dug yourself in kinda deep here, imo.

I would tell her you want to come up with good plans for her bday, and celebrating on a Wed night isn't ideal, so "bump" the birthday plans to that weekend and then come through with something big.

ALady · Sep 19, 2011, 09:57 AM

Oooh, magh33ta is good.

Don't drag someone there who doesn't want to be there. Neither of you will have a good time.

tdb810 · Sep 19, 2011, 10:00 AM

Quote from: ALady on Sep 19, 2011, 09:57 AM
Oooh, magh33ta is good.

Don't drag someone there who doesn't want to be there. Neither of you will have a good time.

Agreed. Set her up with a couple of her girlfriends, and pay for them to go out to dinner or drinks for the evening on Wed, and then make it a weekend extravaganza.

buaawwww · Sep 19, 2011, 11:34 AM

I'm going to be tryin' to convince my wife to go as well! I've been, ahem, going to more concerts than usual of late, and I just know she'll frown when I try to add another to the mix. She doesn't dig all the Jacket tunes, but she does love a handful (for example we regularly play Acoustic Citsouca for our 2 year old).

Fingers crossed!

e_wind · Sep 19, 2011, 11:38 AM

break up with her.

i kid

I think I'd be in trouble if I tried to NOT spend tons of money to make it to NYC for jacket

johnnYYac · Sep 19, 2011, 11:47 AM

Its a tough balancing act, especially if your significant other is not a fan. I've managed to get Michele to be my date for 4 shows of the 15 I've seen. She doesn't like MMJ or any live music enough to travel or spend like I do, and someone has to watch the kids.

The second day of my 2-show trip to Canada (Montreal and Ottawa) was on Michele's birthday.

As I've gotten farther and deeper into my obsession with MMJ, I've encouraged Michele to find her own passion, such that I might accomodate her the way she does me. My parents, sibs, and friends constantly remind me of how lucky I am to have her, and that she "lets" me hit so many shows.

One other thought regarding your girlfriend, JD, would be to arrange to do something just for her on YOUR birthday.

smhoffmann02 · Sep 19, 2011, 11:55 AM

Quote from: tdb810 on Sep 19, 2011, 10:00 AM
Quote from: ALady on Sep 19, 2011, 09:57 AM
Oooh, magh33ta is good.

Don't drag someone there who doesn't want to be there. Neither of you will have a good time.

Agreed. Set her up with a couple of her girlfriends, and pay for them to go out to dinner or drinks for the evening on Wed, and then make it a weekend extravaganza.

Yep, agreed. And, John makes a good point - "One other thought regarding your girlfriend, JD, would be to arrange to do something just for her on YOUR birthday." Be honest, let her know obviously she's #1, and make both her actual b-day and the weekend memorable. It's all good.

SVRDhand13 · Sep 19, 2011, 12:11 PM

Oh wow I had a similar story a few years back and that was with the last MSG show. I wanted to go to the NYE show but my girlfriend wanted to hang out with friends instead. Well she won in the end and I had to sell my GA tix >:(. Good thing I got GA tix today!!!

FiddleCastro · Sep 19, 2011, 01:09 PM

Quote from: buster douglas on Sep 19, 2011, 08:58 AMI had a professor who went to see The Who in New York the night of his anniversary. His wife left him. He seems happy now without her, but keep in mind your priorities...

My hero.

buster douglas · Sep 19, 2011, 02:27 PM

Quote from: FiddleCastro on Sep 19, 2011, 01:09 PM
Quote from: buster douglas on Sep 19, 2011, 08:58 AMI had a professor who went to see The Who in New York the night of his anniversary. His wife left him. He seems happy now without her, but keep in mind your priorities...

My hero.

Haha he was actually the coolest prof I've ever had, he wrote his Thesis on Hunter S. Thompson and "gonzo" journalism, and after his wife left he went on a massive cross-continent motorcycle odyssey. The first written assignment I ever submit to him was about me doing shrooms at a Stones concert... he loved it!

On-Topic, no girl is immune to the charms of New York City, if you make a trip out of it with lots of good stuff for her surely she will cave... best of luck bud.

JerseyDan · Sep 19, 2011, 03:08 PM

not looking good. i brought it up this morning and she said no dice. she doesn't understand the traveling, the passion, the power that is MMJ. don't get me wrong, she likes the music, but this is a rare fit of an unselfish person being selfish. she holds her birthday in high-regard...last year for her 30th you think she was planning a wedding. the whole thing of "the charms of nyc" won't slice it since i work for a company out of Brooklyn so she has seen most of it.

anyone got a floor i can crash on in SF?

peafunk31 · Sep 25, 2011, 11:31 PM

How long does ether last? ::)

lasvegas · Sep 26, 2011, 05:13 PM

sounds like you need a new gf.

and who makes a big deal out of their own birthday after 21?

ManNamedTruth · Sep 26, 2011, 07:22 PM

Girlfriends come and go, but you'll always have MMJ!
I went to a show on my birthday before, if there's a good show in town then that's a big priority.

JerseyDan · Dec 13, 2011, 09:22 AM

homie is coming to the show! yes, she gave in. yes, its a positive. crazy set of circumstances I care not to get into on the forum but FUCK YES I AM GOING TO MSG!